If you had another child after your twins

[fryjack2]

How old were your twins when your 3rd was born?  Do you think the age gap was good or would you have rather waited longer or had the 3rd earlier?

[demandypants]

My twins will be our second and third kids, so kinda the opposite. But I reply because I feel like it is really just dependent on the first kid(s) personalities and your desire to add to the family. When DD was around 2 people started asking if we were having more. I would laugh at them but it was because DD was so high needs and I couldn't imagine having to care for her plus an even needier newborn at the same time! Then we decided to move, and now that we are expecting the twins I am glad we put that first! FWIW, DD is 7 now. So we are kinda extreme on the spacing. But it was right for us. DD is independent with a lot of things, she can understand that the babies need more from us at this point, and she can help too. My sister and I were 3.5 years apart and I always thought that was a good spacing too while growing up. Close enough we could play but not too close.

[Deleted]

Mine is reversed, I had a singleton and then had twins. My singleton was 21 mos when the twins were born. Honestly, right now the age gap is far too close and it's very difficult. That said, as they all get older it is getting easier. We are getting the baby stage over with and travel will become easier. They are also close enough in age to enjoy the same types of activities.

From what I have been told though, if you go from twins to a singleton it is much easier.

[marissa]

I had an almost 8 year old singleton when my twins were born. My twins were a few days shy of 2 when my youngest we as born. They turned 2 four days after he was born.

[everam01]

My twins are 3.5 and I'm due next month. We didn't plan for a 3rd, so the spacing wasn't intentional. This seems to be a good gap since my boys have become more independent. I can't imagine trying to pull it off when they were younger!

[momtowos]

My twins were 14 months old when we had our third. They were not yet walking and I had a c-section. It was difficult at first but now I love the spacing. They are almost triplets and they love all the same things. I am almost out of diapers, my youngest is now 2 1/2.

[fryjack2]

Dec 10, 2014 14:27:06 GMT -5 @cookiemonster03 said:

My girls are 3 and we're trying. We hoping to have a third by now but it didn't work out.

I hope 2015 is the year of a new baby for you.  ((@cookiemonster03))

[thiswillbe]

Our twins are almost 5, and we're trying for another kid. My ideal spacing would have been 2-3 years apart, but life didn't happen that way. I think if we were successful soon it wouldn't be too much of a gap (even though 5 years far exceeds my hopes), but I think if we get into the possibility of them being 6+ years apart, we'd have to have some serious conversations about continuing to ttc.

[dcrunnergirl52]

My twins were 2y10m when our #3 was born. We had originally wanted a less space between them but now I'm glad that things worked out the way they did.

[macchiatto]

FWIW I've been dying for a third since my boys were 2. They're about to turn 6 and DH just hasn't been ready. We've been through a lot though.

[charley]

My daughter is exactly 3 years younger than my twins and the gap has been really great so far (she is 18mo). I think any earlier would have been too overwhelming for me, the twins are just now acting independent.

[shananagins]

The thought of another kid is still giving me hives, so definitely more than 3 years!

[fryjack2]

Mar 11, 2015 22:27:12 GMT -5 shananagins said:

The thought of another kid is still giving me hives, so definitely more than 3 years!

I'm not having a third! Based on my experience, im jamazed when I hear of people with 3u3 or 3u2. Those people are my heroes.

I wondered if a bigger age gap made a third easier or if three super close was easier since their needs are more aligned.