If you have a name picked out for the baby, do you: 1. Call him/her that name now 2. Not call him/her the name in case you want to change your mind later
We are 80% sure we have a name picked out, but neither of us wants to officially commit. I kind of wish we were ready to pick so I could order Christmas stockings on clearance (embroidered), call him something other than "the baby" and maybe do some kind of name project in the nursery. But I think I want to have the ability to change my mind up to the very last minute. Since I still have up to 16 weeks left, I figure we could stumble upon some magical name that we just HAVE to use or something. If it had been a girl, I think we could have committed to a name the day we found out, but I may have held off anyway just in case. I am very indecisive.
We were 95% sure of DD1s name. We even had her name in some of our maternity photos. We shared with a few people.
Then we decided on a TOTALLY different name, which we had never really discussed before the day of her birth. And, I'm so glad that she has this name.
When all is said and done, if you end up tossing a stocking or keepsake, it's much less of an issue than having name regret. I think it's ok to bond with a name now if you want, AND keep your options open.
We will wait to decide on DD2s name until we meet her, too.
I am very superstitious about all baby related things (I'm Jewish) so while the baby has a name, once we decided it it won't get uttered again until she is here. It makes me very uncomfortable when people use their unborn child's name out loud before it's born.
No one will know her name until after she is born. For my son we waited 8 days until his bris, but there isn't such a ceremony for girls so we will just announce it once we know she is perfectly healthy.
We used the name but didn't buy anything. With dd she had her name from 13 weeks. Ds didn't have a name until 24 weeks and then we changed it a few weeks later to his name that stayed
I'm actually nervous because I'm not in love with any names. My DH is being tight lipped about his choices and I'm getting nervous thinking about it. I love my baby so much and don't want to name him the wrong name. Irrational, I know. I never realized how tough baby naming could be! If it were up to me, I'd call him "My Baby" forever and ever!
We have had a name picked out since we found out we were having a girl at 18 weeks. We still haven't shared it. We want to keep it to ourselves until she is born. This way in case we change our mind we can, but since we have stuck with it this long I doubt we will.
I usually just say "the baby" or "baby", even to my DH. I call her by name when I am talking to her in my mind. DH even asked why I don't refer to her by name when talking to him, but I just don't to be careful that I don't slip up around other people.
Post by demandypants on Dec 12, 2014 8:08:11 GMT -5
DD wasn't named until after she was born, we had a short list and then talked about it after I delivered. I have a pretty definite name for our boy and I think we came to a decision on the girl. But I do not refer to either by those names. I call them baby boy or baby girl. I don't feel comfortable with using their names for some reason.
We decided on his name at about 36-37 weeks, but it was the one that had been our front runner for weeks. I just didn't want to commit.
We did not share his name or refer to him by name until after he was born. Actually one of the nurses kept calling him by his first and middle name while I was in labor and it annoyed me. We'd written his name on the birth paperwork, and she kept saying, "come out, X Y!" while I was pushing.
We refer to her by name. I like that our family does as well. But we were set on a name very early on, so I don't have any concerns about wanting to change it at all.
Post by bakerlady89 on Dec 12, 2014 9:42:09 GMT -5
We are tho indecisive on names and won't be referring to this one by name until after birth when we finally decide. DD wasn't named until 10 minutes our so after being born. We went to the hospital with a short list.
We refer to her by her name. I feel like it's a way I can start bonding with her now.
And I refer to Autumn's kid by her name too, lol, even taking pictures of signs that have her name, lol.
As for me....Team Green so nope. It's bunny.
I'm actually going to be sad if I have to stop calling it bunny after it's born. I mean, if it's a girl I can get away with it until she knows what a stripper is but if it's a boy, I'm pretty sure that won't fly in my house anymore.
We have had our boy name picked out since we started TTC. When we found out C was a boy we knew that we were sticking with that name. We are 100% certain it won't change once he's here and have shared the name with everyone. Yes, we call him by his name and don't mind that others do as well...he even has a 1st Christmas ornament with his nmae on it and his name is in his room/nursery (above his crib).
We are fairly certain we have decided what we are going to name her, but we don't refer to her as that now. I'm not sure why - I guess I'm not 100% sure (I feel like maybe I'll see her and have a change of heart) but also it just feels weird to me to call her that name already. We refer to her as Little Bear, or the baby.
We haven't told most people what we're naming her (not family, at least) but someone asked at a choir performance last night that I was in and I felt comfortable telling those people what our name idea was, since I'm not close with any of them. One lady immediately started talking to my stomach, calling her by the name and it was just soo weird.
Post by jennistarr1 on Dec 12, 2014 10:31:18 GMT -5
okay, full honesty here. For some reason, it bugs me when people call unborn child by their name. I have ABSOLUTELY no justification for this and cannot rationalize it all. I just don't prefer it.
Post by sunshine239 on Dec 12, 2014 10:47:55 GMT -5
Too early with this one to decide on a name since we don't know (and might not find out) gender. Right now we are using "peanut".
With our other kids we decided on names pretty quickly after the anatomy scan and I think we used their names occassionally but not a lot - mostly "baby" or nicknames that right now I'm blanking on
Post by starburst604 on Dec 12, 2014 12:54:55 GMT -5
I've had her name picked out like my whole life lol, so it won't be changing. We do call her by her name at home. I find it really sweet when H rubs my belly and says good night to her etc. I don't really say her name much around others though, just "she", "her" or baby.
okay, full honesty here. For some reason, it bugs me when people call unborn child by their name. I have ABSOLUTELY no justification for this and cannot rationalize it all. I just don't prefer it.
okay, full honesty here. For some reason, it bugs me when people call unborn child by their name. I have ABSOLUTELY no justification for this and cannot rationalize it all. I just don't prefer it.
Agree 100%.
I'm kinda the same way. Esp before I was pregnant.
Now that we know the sex and are 99% on the name I have thought to myself why not call tiny name. But it still feels weird. I don't know if it's superstition or what.
That said, if something bad were to happen, it's not like we'd use this name on another kid.
Post by catscatscats on Dec 12, 2014 13:36:54 GMT -5
DH and I were just talking last night about how happy we were that we found out the gender and chose a name early on. It's really helped us to feel bonded with the baby -- especially him, since he didn't experience all of the early movement, etc.
We've had our name picked for a long time now, but we feel it's bad juju to call the baby that before it's born. We have a nickname we call the baby and the family calls him by his nickname too. It's going to be hard to switch to his actual name. I might still use it at home.
We have been "trying on" some names. Just with the two of us. So one day it's "baby x" and then another "baby y." We figure that if we find "the name" it will stick. We have gone through about 4 names since finding out he was a boy!
We picked out a baby girl name when we were doing IVF and had a couple of names picked for boys. Now that we know it's a girl, I think we are set on the name. I thought I should keep my options open but I don't see the point since we both love the name so much and it's so perfect for her. I've shared the name with my mom and a couple of friends but the rest will find out only after she is born.
I'm actually nervous because I'm not in love with any names. My DH is being tight lipped about his choices and I'm getting nervous thinking about it. I love my baby so much and don't want to name him the wrong name. Irrational, I know. I never realized how tough baby naming could be! If it were up to me, I'd call him "My Baby" forever and ever!
I missed the announcement that you're having a boy. Congratulations!!!!
We have picked a name but aren't sharing it publicly. I have used his monogram on a few things but that's it. C still thinks we're naming the baby Mamasita.
We still mostly refer to him as "the baby" at home. It feels weird to me to use a name out loud too much before he's actually born, but that's just a personal hangup. IDGAF if other people do, it just doesn't feel right to me so I don't.