Post by notmyrealusername on Aug 3, 2012 10:00:37 GMT -5
It was really tough. The therapist basically made H face everything and accept responsibility, telling him the potential consequences, asking him how he would feel if his family and coworkers knew, asking how he felt about causing me to continue having nightmares about all of it, etc.
I have an individual session tonight and H has one next week before we go back for another joint.
It still feels like there's nothing much to tell. I don't feel any differently about it yet. But you asked for an update, so there you go.
Post by mypunkinpie on Aug 3, 2012 10:05:25 GMT -5
How did your H react to facing the potential consequences brought up by your therapist? Do you and your H talk about the sessions after? Do you think he "gets" it yet?
Post by notmyrealusername on Aug 3, 2012 10:06:04 GMT -5
I am the one whose husband has had sex with her while sleeping. So you probably want to retract your support and tell me to divorce the dbag, like everyone else. Ha.
How did your H react to facing the potential consequences brought up by your therapist? Do you and your H talk about the sessions after? Do you think he "gets" it yet?
He was really emotional about it. Yes, I think he finally gets it. I think hearing it from another person made it real for him, and he couldn't just tell himself that I was "maximizing" the issue or being overly dramatic.
Last Edit: Aug 3, 2012 10:08:08 GMT -5 by pedanticwench
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
I am the one whose husband has had sex with her while sleeping. So you probably want to retract your support and tell me to divorce the dbag, like everyone else. Ha.
I remember. You need support more than anything. Really, good luck. Keep going, for a long time. Work on yourself. Make sure he is going as well. This is not something that can be fixed by a few counseling sessions (although I am sure you know that).
I am the one whose husband has had sex with her while sleeping. So you probably want to retract your support and tell me to divorce the dbag, like everyone else. Ha.
I remember. You need support more than anything. Really, good luck. Keep going, for a long time. Work on yourself. Make sure he is going as well. This is not something that can be fixed by a few counseling sessions (although I am sure you know that).
Thank you. Really. I know most MLers think I should be in counseling to figure out how to leave him, not to fix the marriage. So I appreciate you not telling me I'm an idiot.
I don't think you're an idiot either. I think I would be doing exactly what you are doing if I was in the same situation. I hope your relationship continues to improve.