Breaking up with a Friend

[picklepie09]

I wish I could break up with a certain friend of mine. While i have certainly pulled back due to comments she has made about my children and her overstepping her boundries at our workplace (I got her the job here) I have had it. She doesn't "get it". How did you sucessfully cut ties with someone without outright saying 'You suck, your kid sucks, you piss me off and I am done with you". HEEEELLLPPP

[Deleted]

You slowly back away. Every time she wants to do something you are busy. Stop calling her. If she calls you, start cutting back on the time you will stay on the phone. But don't make excuses. Just "Well, gotta go now. Take care."

[mrsjuleshs]

I just pulled back and eventually stopped talking to her.

[gault]

Move slowly and carry a big gun should she attack you.

[thebamker]

you just start to limit your time spent with that person. Sadly - since you work together, I would try hard not to make it a dramatic break of any kind.

[picklepie09]

I should add that not only do I work with her we have the same friends, our kids have the same friends etc. I just want to throttle her every time I am in her presence

[alzi]

You should probably just move.

[kellbell191]

I also do the gradual fade but its harder when you work together and have a lot of friends in common. I would just try not to ever be alone with her, but be polite when I have to be around her. Officially breaking off the friendship is not going to help at work or with mutual friends.

Limit contact and suck it up when you do have contact. My limit is blatantly rude offensive things like using the n word, calling your kids fat and ugly, hitting on your husband, etc. Then I would tell her to fuck off. But if she's just really annoying I'd drink a lot when around her and avoid if all possible.

[lemonbasil]

I have broken up with several toxic friends over the past few years. The last time it happened, I told the person why I was upset with them, why I felt we shouldn't continue our relationship and told them I was done. Honesty is the best policy.

[eb777888]

Exactly what schmancy said. I slowly back out.