DH gave me two 3-packs of onesies and a $50 target gift card.
We used to go out to fancy dinners and shows.
I know my DH is overwhelmed with life right now. He's a procrastinator, and was alone with the baby the weekend before my birthday, but man my birthday sucked this year.
And I keep hearing coworkers talk about the gifts they are so excited to give their wives. I'm just kind of down in the dumps I guess.
H tried to plan a birthday party which ended up being way more work for me than him, I ended up entertaining a high-maintenance friend all night at the party, my brother and his trashy girlfriend showed up and dominated the conversation, DD was sick that morning and I had to take her to her first sick visit (this was all a few days before, on the day of the party) - and on my actual birthday, I ended up working late even though I was on "maternity leave" and we went to a not-very-fancy restaurant and had hamburgers on the patio outside.
Not really a fancy bash to ring in a new decade, LOL.
I've learned that I care so much in the moment but not at all later on. I don't remember my birthday and it was less than two months ago. I know H bought me slippers (because I sent him a link to them and said "these, please."). I only remember because they're sitting in a box in my kitchen. They're too big and he was supposed to exchange them...two months ago.
My first Bday with Caramini was also Father's Day weekend.
I was giving a course at a resort, so we drove down as a family. He and Caramini hung out on the beach and at the hotel while I taught.
I planned a surprise for him every day:
1) Goodnight iPad 2) Cufflinks with Caramini's birthstone and mother of pearl 3) A case of Bordeaux futures from the year of Caramini's birth. A nice card that said that we should open them on special occasions: her first day of kindergarten, the first tooth she loses, her first date, etc. And one really nice bottle to save for her graduation from college or grad school or whatever.
He got me a soda stream. He uses that all.the.time. I never use it. It is the equivalent of a bowling ball that says "Homer".
Post by SallySparrow on Dec 17, 2014 22:23:33 GMT -5
I think it was okay? A's birthday is the day before mine, so I was a little more focused on that. I think we went out to lunch? I vaguely remember a birthday milkshake because I didn't want cake. Yeah, I got nothing. I turned 30.
But really, if the kid was going to outshine my birthday she could have at least waited another four hours and we could have shared the same day.
Post by humpforfree on Dec 17, 2014 22:32:01 GMT -5
Yes. He was too busy with the house to give my birthday a second thought. I bought my own present (a ring sling), took myself and the baby out to lunch, planned my supper (out to On the Border) and bought my own ice cream cake. It sucked, but at least I expected it for my birthday. Mother's Day blew because I didn't have low expectations and I was so let down. He knows I expect more in the future once the house isn't as much of a priority anymore.. Lol.
We went out for birthday nachos at The Cheesecake Factory. Not because I like their nachos (they were quite meh), but because it was the easiest place to take DD. I've been craving nachos since I was pregnant and we never really go anywhere that they serve them. Also you can't really do nachos for takeout.
We had to pack up our dinners to go because DD was trying to eat the table, the high chair, stick her fingers into my Bang Bang Chicken and Shrimp and then lick her fingers. There were several gag and puke attempts too.
I forgot to finish half of my margarita in our hurry to go. (BOOOOO)
I asked my husband to take a picture of me and DD with the nice cake he got me. She kept trying to smear the frosting so I had to move her because more cleanup is the last thing I want to do.
She is currently happily playing with the red ribbon that was on my gift (brown boots!). You would've thought she was going to fall asleep at the Cheesecake Factory at the rate she was rubbing her eyes while trying to eat the table edge.
I will only remember all of this because I typed it here and shared it with all of you. <)
Well the first birthday after having my oldest DH was on the other side of the country training up for a deployment to Iraq so I'm going with yes it was tough. He did however leave my present hidden before he left so that he could tell me where it was on my birthday so I still got a gift. But seeing as how I was alone with an 11.5 month old I'm guessing I didn't do much else.
Sorry it wasn't the birthday you were hoping for, that's never fun.
The girls were still in the NICU on my birthday, DH didn't give me anything and I was living in the Ronald McDonald house alone. DH visited on weekends but he was working so most week days I didn't see him. He did come down for my birthday and ate food that was donated to the house from Texas Roadhouse. One plus of the day was I got to hold my little girls that day, I had a friend that arranged to come take me out to lunch that day and no showed. I think I had easy mac for my birthday lunch. I definitely cried that day.
I don't really remember what we did last year for my bday but I do know in years before baby, we were generally at a resort in the Caribbean for my birthday. So definitely a big change post baby! Oh wait I remember - we went to Capital Grille for dinner. Nice, but I would have preferred a tropical drink next to a pool in Jamaica!
It took me a while to remember, but I think I had *just* been cleared from my gestational diabetes, so H took me out for nachos & margaritas, which is really all that I wanted at the time.
i was really disappointed with my first Mother's Day so h was determined to make up for it on my birthday. he did a good job. he bought me some really thoughtful gifts. nothing big, but stuff i love - a pretty basket filled with magazines, treats, wine, and a fun socks. totally my thing.
i also initiated the purchase of a ring to stack with my wedding and engagement rings. it's something i've been thinking about since our first anniversary, but was waiting for a significant occasion to make the purchase. sometime last year i realized i would have a baby and we'd celebrate our 5th anniversary within a few months of each other so that seemed like a good time. h agreed, but we never got around to making it happen. so when we passed the jewelry store the week before my birthday and there was a sale i went shopping.
this birthday was an anomaly though. i'm usually a little disappointed in h's efforts, so i'm really hoping we've turned a new leaf this year.
Post by catsarecute on Dec 17, 2014 23:17:53 GMT -5
It was just this past August and I barely remember a thing. I know we had family over for pizza the weekend before. My actual birthday fell on a Monday and dd had her 4 month appointment. She got shots. I have no clue if DH got me anything. My memory is shot.
Post by AlpineSlide on Dec 17, 2014 23:43:17 GMT -5
It probably sucked but dh has never made my birthday special which I'm pretty much okay with because gifts (giving and receiving) are not my love language. Meh. If I want something I just buy it for myself. Pampering would have been nice at the time considering that I was overwhelmed with our 5 month old on my birthday.
Post by shellbear09 on Dec 17, 2014 23:50:36 GMT -5
No clue what he got me but I'm sure it was fine, I had a two month old so it's a blur. I'm not big into my birthday really so I like low key. Onesies are a bit strange but gc is nice. Maybe you could plan a night out for dinner without the baby.
Post by changedname on Dec 17, 2014 23:54:11 GMT -5
DD was two days old so its a bit of a blur.
He got me an edible arrangement with the chocolate covered fruit as part of a the bouquet. It was perfect as o could grab a few stalks of it while breastfeeding.
He also got a cute book from DD to be which made me cry (pp hormones).
We didn't do anything special though and no one else remembered as they were too wrapped up in DD.
My birthday with DD was good but that was because I planned the whole thing. It was a big one, so I found a resort I wanted to go to with DH and DD, booked it and made all of the special arrangements. While we were there, I asked DH to order a cake for when we got home- he did and it was great! He also remembered to get cards and we had a nice time celebrating.
My baby was 6 days old - refusing to nurse, refusing to sleep, screaming, and my nipples were bleeding. I had slept maybe 8 hours total for the whole week. My husband gave me some nice framed photos of the new baby, but I really don't remember much of the day. I didn't care about my birthday at all. I was just trying to survive.
I did have a husband wtf moment on Mother's Day though, when I was still pregnant. We ( I ) went through IVF to get pregnant, and had a fairly physically taxing pregnancy. I had ideas that he'd express his appreciation of everything I had to go through, and get me a spa day or something. Instead, he gave me a bag of baby outfits he'd thought I'd like. I liked them, but I was like, so what'd you get for ME? This isn't Baby's Day.
I don't remember what he got me but I know I wasn't happy. I'm sorry you're disappointed. Gifts aren't my love language but I expect minimal effort. Just to show he gives a shit. Hopefully YH steps it up. MH has gotten better as I have demanded better.
I was 2 days postpartum with DD1 on my first birthday as a mom.
I DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS.
I also do not recommend having your birthday 2 days after your child's in general. Especially if all four people in your family have birthdays within 6 weeks of each other, and yours is the last of all. It means your birthday will essentially be meaningless for all eternity, or at least until one or both of your kids is old enough to have birthday drinks with you.
In conclusion, I have not had a really good birthday since I turned 28.