Can I just brain dump for a minute?

[flex]

In my personal experience, once you're "done" it's done.

I suggest you get individual counseling because it seems to me you're carrying a lot of unnecessary weight on your shoulders. I think it's time to do an emotional inventory and a counselor can help you with this.

This can be a difficult time of the year even under the best of circumstances. Try to hang in there, BUT PLEASE take some action too. Sometimes it seems like it's easier to do nothing, but it's not healthy, KWIM?

Big hugs to you.

[btay]

I agree that individual counseling is a good idea. I'm really sorry you are dealing with so much

[flex]

He WANTS to make you miserable??? He gets up and leaves the room when you walk in?

You said that "DH & I are most likely done"--hell yeah, you two are definitely done.

[malibu]

I am so sorry. That sounds...just awful. Awful. You are dealing with so much. He is definitely not being a good partner - or any kind of partner at all.

I am glad you are in therapy. I would definitely recommend you take your therapist's advice. A husband who is proclaiming he is *trying* to make you miserable is not someone who deserves you at all.

What did your mom say? Do you have family close you could stay with? If he won't leave, then you should and take the kids with you. Let him stew in his mess.

ETA: I reread and saw your mom offered you to stay there. I know you want to keep the kids in their normal routine, but I really think you should take her up on the offer. You definitely need some time to yourself, if not for help with the kids but to just be able to think.

Again, I am so very sorry. What a terrible situation.

[malibu]

Also - I highly doubt any of this is your fault. He really sounds like a child who can't take care of himself and who enjoys playing the blame game. He can't even take basic care of the kids but it's *you* who's "having an episode"?? I want to smack him right now.

[flex]

Me too, malibu! Let's tag team that SOB.

[arch01]

I'm sorry Take care of yourself. Staying with your mom might be the thing you need to process everything and figure out how to move forward.

[flex]

We're here for you and feel free to brain dump away!! lol

[lexxasaurus]

So, I am very sorry you've had so many health issues and it has impacted your sex life, and your well being in general.
That being said, that is not your problem. Your problem is that you are with someone that is childish, and OPENLY vindictive and manipulative towards you. This is not how a healthy person reacts to stress, or confrontation, or simple needs from their spouse.
I think staying with your mom is a good step since I've found sometimes taking a step back helps me clear my head and see the situation more clearly. We're here if you need, I hope you take care of yourself.