AE but I need to vent

[ae1122]

I had been through about 6 years of H's struggle with alcohol before he admitted it (it took me awhile, too). A little over a year ago, he gave up alcohol. He started counseling. Around 6 months, he let some alcohol back into his life, but with certain rules (no more than one glass and only when I was present to keep him accountable). His counselor was on board.

Honestly the last 13 months he has been fantastic. Tonight he had a slight slip. He went golfing with friends and drank. He wasn't completely smashed but he was tipsy. Not an excuse, just an explanation of events. He did not drive home. He had a friend drive him (which was an issue in the past). 

However, the biggest issue I had was he lied to me. I talked to him mid-afternoon as a check in and we talked and he claimed he didn't have a drink. Then on his way home he told me he had one. When he got home it was clear he had more than that. 

It has taking me most of the past 13 months to begin to trust him at all in terms of alcohol. So the lying really upsets me. 

I'm more venting than anything. We will talk to his counselor as soon as we can and go from there.


He's sleeping now and we will talk about it in the morning.  

[flex]

Because he's trying to control his drinking and because he's lied to you, it's my opinion that it's indicative of a drinking problem that is progressing.

I can see why his counselor is on board with this because it only proves he has a drinking problem.

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I agree. The lying is the worst part.
Like flex said, the lying and having to control the drinking is definitely a sign he needs help.

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ae1122 How are you doing? Any updates? Are things ok?