PP hormones- normal?

[pugz]

I do not want dh to touch me, at all. I was super affectionate while pregnant, and before that even I would snuggle up. Now he is OVER THE TOP with the snuggling (prob because we can't have sex yet, also he is happier than he's ever been so that probably has something to do with it.) I just want to sleep. I don't care if the alarm went off, I am going to squeeze out every last second of sleep until that baby wakes up to eat. I have tried to be nice about it but I'm about to reach my breaking point and scream DON'T TOUCH ME!

probably has something to do with breastfeeding too. Baby gets unlimited access to my body right now and I feel very asexual at the moment since I'm just a feeding machine.

[zeewifeandmama]

I would say VERY normal....you sound like a typical BF'ing mom of a 4 week old. You are tired and touched out, I totally get it! Sorry no advice on how to get through to DH, but just wanted to let you know that I feel you!

[satama]

IMO totally normal! It does get a lot better once the baby sleeps through the night. But yeah your body does not feel like yours anymore and with a baby needing constant access it makes sense to have no desire for romantic physical contact.

[Willis Jackson]

Super normal.

I was so touched out for awhile.

[sewpinkgal]

Totally normal. For a long time after J was born, sleep or just resting by myself trumped everything else.

[thatgirl2478]

Normal, IMO, it can be exhausting being touched constantly. I felt exactly the same way for several months. It wasn't until DD weaned (around 3mo - I stopped being able to make enough for her) that I felt 'normal' again and didn't mind being touched.

[jinkies]

Another vote for normal. I was also completely touched out for the first several months of my son's life. I am no help on communicating that to your husband though, since I really hurt my husband's feelings by not wanting to be touched postpartum.

[Tea-rific]

Yep... I was like this for a little while. Totally normal.

[froggy76]

I was the same way. The only thing I wanted at night was to crawl in bed and sleep, untouched. It's temporary!

[jena]

Normal and temporary. Even after it started getting a little better, there would be days of relapse where I would just be totally "touched out". The more he can do for the kids in the evening, the more he can keep them off me, the better life is for him.

Oh, and even when I was improved enough to the point of having sex, I wore a bra to bed and basically told him that if he touched my boobs, it was over. Because the boobs had a full time job and they needed to freaking be left alone. Boobless sex was hard for him, but he got used to it.

[thedash]

Normal. I would sometimes literally push him off of me. It will get better eventually. Try holding hands or something while you are awake.

[vanillacourage]

Totally normal, and there's a biological imperative for the way you're feeling. Mother Nature knows that a woman's body needs to rest, and that another pregnancy so soon afterward would be difficult. So, she puts up roadblocks.

I remember being sleep-deprived and like others "touched out". Baby had unfettered access to my body outside of my control, so when it was my choice I subconsciously pushed back. You'll likely feel much better in a few weeks.

[Deleted]

Normal even though I ff, I still just wanted/ sometimes want to be left the f alone. It's really exhausting to be needed 24x7 but it gets better. I am just now to the point where snuggling with dh & watching a movie after ds goes to bed doesn't seem like a huge chore.