I'm really sick of people thinking I don't know wh

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at to do with my own kids.

Mom, MIL, sister, even Jake sometimes.

Maybe they're trying to help but it's so frustrating when they talk about my kids as if I don't know them. "Marcus does xyz," "Gabriel prefers when you do abc." Yeah, I KNOW, I'm their mother. It'd be different if it was a technique that worked for that person but when it's like "Marcus always fusses when I put him down for a nap" I want to smack Jake. Or my mom or whoever.

Maybe I'm being overly sensitive about this since I work and haven't spent an entire day alone with them yet. But with the exception of Jake, neither has anyone else.

[hubes]

I hated that too.

DH used to do it when I stayed home with him. "He doesn't like XYZ." Well, no shit. I am his mom. I know what he likes!

[iamgrace]

Just silently stare at them until they're done talking. Then walk away. This is how I handle my mom, but I'm a well known giant bitch.

[thebamker]

My MIL is the fucking QUEEN of this... and a lot of the time she's wrong or tells me my kids are doing/understanding things WAY beyond their level. It's so LOL-worthy, but when you hate someone, it's hard to find the innocence in any of it. haha

[emsumm]

I SO remember feeling that way when the twins were small. I think it's compounded when you have two bc you get this feeling like people think you don't know them as well because they're in duplicate. Or you have somehow failed to observe the differences in them that other people notice.
My MIL just did it yesterday, actually. "Em, did you know that Maya doesn't listen that well, but Naomi does?" OMG, no shit? I had no clue, I'm only their mom who tries to get them to do shit all the damn day. I had no idea who was easier to direct!

[lazyphoque]

It annoyed me with DD, too. H and I came to an agreement that we'd take anything the other one told us about her as a friendly sharing of parental observations, not advice, so we weren't constantly snapping "I KNOW ASSHOLE" at each other. I was especially sensitive because he is home with her a few days a week and I was jealous, lol.

Other people got blank stares accompanied by noncommittal "ngh" noises.

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my parents and ILs do this. like it's a revelation. i've come to realize for them that it's that they don't see her often and are so excited to have something unique (they think) they know about her.

it still makes me spit nails. as does the "omg, she looks JUST LIKE [insert person to whom i am not blood related who looks nothing like my kid at all]."

[iamgrace]

Aug 4, 2012 14:43:23 GMT -5 cville said:

my parents and ILs do this. like it's a revelation. i've come to realize for them that it's that they don't see her often and are so excited to have something unique (they think) they know about her.

it still makes me spit nails. as does the "omg, she looks JUST LIKE [insert person to whom i am not blood related who looks nothing like my kid at all]."

If I hear how much Henry looks like his redneck cousin one more time I swear my head will spin.

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My mom does this too me sometimes too. And the other day a lady at my daycare told me "Oh, by the way, his new favorite song is pat-a-cake because I sing it with him every day." It's been his favorite song since he was about 7 months old because we ALL sing it with him.

[karmasabiotch]

I was like that with my sister when she had twins 18 years ago. I didn't know all that much about anything back then but I wanted to feel included. I must have been so annoying.

Then I stopped for about 17 years. I'm back at if now though calling my sister and making sure she remembers to talk with them about binge drinking, GHB, the herp, etc. Before they go off to college. The only thing that doesn't have me completely over the edge is that they will be on the same dorm.

I hope you have a break from everyone thinking they're the expert.