Dating question.

[dowagercountess]

I have a 5th date with a guy tonight. I like him lots. He always picks the place, and it's always an expensiveish restaurant. I offered to pay/ split the first few times. He said no. Do I have to keep offering? I appreciate that he picks the places because I don't know what's here, honestly. And I really can't afford the places he picks. And I hate picking. What say ML?

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I haven't dated in awhile, so take that into consideration. But I'd say offer again tonight. And if he refuses, invite him next time, pick the place and pay. Or have him over if you like/want to cook.

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Or you can invite him over and order in.

[sonrisa]

My solution used to be to invite him to dinner, but obviously that is complicated when you have a daughter. Can you invite him on a picnic and prepare everything? So you are "hosting" but not at home?

[dowagercountess]

I was thinking about inviting myself to his place. I really don't like to have guys here until I'm sure sure. Not to mention my current houseguest would probably make that awkward.

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[dowagercountess]

The thing is, he just tells me. Date day will roll around and he'll say le McDonald's at 8, k? I'll just tell him next week I'll cook at his house. I'd just take the check one day but I.really can't afford it, which he knows.

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Aug 4, 2012 15:35:02 GMT -5 dowagercountess said:

I was thinking about inviting myself to his place. I really don't like to have guys here until I'm sure sure. Not to mention my current houseguest would probably make that awkward.

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I think that would be great!

[justkly]

Let him treat you since he keeps picking places that are out of your price range. Though, maybe next time plan the date (pick and pay for), so that he knows you appriciate and reciprocate.

[underwaterrhymes]

Can you plan a date and take him somewhere fun and inexpensive? (e.g. go karts, burgers, and ice cream?)

Cooking dinner at his place works too!

[bab]

I would not offer to pay for a meal that I really couldn't afford. If you don't want things to feel too one-sided, insist on taking him to Five Guys or make him a nice dinner at home. I think it's great that he is taking you to nice places and he insists on paying. He's a gentleman and you deserve that kind of treatment.