This will be ok, right?

[wildswans24]

I don't have kids, so I'm not sure if my opinion counts. But, my first instinct is that I wouldn't be comfortable with the situation. Even if she's not using drugs, I'd feel weird about the boundary issue. I'm not sure what kind of work you do, but I'm guessing social services since you send the client for drug tests. I wouldn't want my clients to meet/interact with my child.

[sarahbear]

I'd request another counselor. I don't care if it makes me "that mom" it's just what I'd be comfortable with.

[weelass24]

I think that you need to trust the camp to be aware of what is going on with their employee, as hard as that is going to be in this case. Obviously you can't say anything, but I would think that they have done background checks on the employees and know her history.

You could always make different arraingements for him they day of the trip.

[wildswans24]

I'm hoping (assuming) the camp drug tests it's counselors. But, I wouldn't bet on it. I worked for the YMCA in the past, and was not required to take a drug test. I was really surprised b/c the job was working with children.

Even if there was no known history of drug use, I wouldn't want a client of mine to interact with my child/be part of my personal life. It just seems....weird. And unethical (depending upon the client of client/provider relationship).

[iamgrace]

I wouldn't be comfortable with this. I don't think I'd want my professional and personal lives intersecting this way.

[wildswans24]

Would you be the one dropping him off/picking him up? If so, that would make me even more hesitant to let my kid go to the camp. It would be weird to me to pick my son up, have her see me (perhaps talk to me about the day) and then have to provide social services to this girl.

[EmilieMadison]

Aug 4, 2012 18:55:32 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

I wouldn't be comfortable with this. I don't think I'd want my professional and personal lives intersecting this way.

I agree with this. I'm not sure this would even be ethical, even if it's allowed. I certainly wouldnt allow it. And aside from your professional life colliding with your child's life, the fact that you know her personal/legal/drug issues are a no-go for me. I realize that "lots" of kids do drugs, including ones who work with children. But in those cases, you have to just hope that the organization is hiring people who dont have issues. But you KNOW for a fact that this girl hasn't been on the up and up. Sure, she needs a job and deserves a job if she's straightening her life out. But I dont necessarily agree that the job should put her in charge of other people's children.

[emsumm]

I'd be less worried about the drug thing, and more worried about the prof/personal overlap and your history with the kid. I'd request a change of counselor, I think.

[gretchenindisguise]

Yeah the worry here isn't the drugs. It's the intersection of professional and personal worlds. I'd likely pull my kid and find a new one.

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Aug 4, 2012 20:35:22 GMT -5 emsumm said:

I'd be less worried about the drug thing, and more worried about the prof/personal overlap and your history with the kid. I'd request a change of counselor, I think.

Yep, this. I'd request a different counselor.

[anlo]

Drug issues or not, I agree about not wanting to mingle two. Will she even know if you request another counselor? I might even tell them that there is a professional conflict of interests (but I wouldn't give more details than that to protect her privacy).

[drrn04]

This is a weird overlap, for sure. If it isn't possible to change counselors w/ out her knowing (this is also presuming that she then wouldn't really have contact w/ him in other parts of the program), I'd probably pull him out and try to find a different program. sorry.