9mo old wide awake in middle of the night

[Deleted]

Does she eat a lot during the day? Do you think she is actually hungry or is she just used to this routine? Are you willing to do some CIO to break it? I know it's tough, and I have no other suggestions besides CIO since that is what we had to use to break DS' night bottle. GL!

[barefootcontessa]

I was going to say try to get her more calories during the day but it does not sound like you are trying to get her to STTN. I have had some babies still need to nurse during that night at that age but they usually went back to sleep. Maybe keep her up later and see if that helps? I am nor sure.

[karinothing]

DS has been doing this lately and he is also 9 months. I hear about it a lot on my BMB too, so I am blaming the whole being 9 months thing. Honestly, the other night I spent 2 hours trying to get him to go back to sleep. By that point I was exhausted and on the verge of a breakdown. I put him in the crib and just had to let him yell for a bit. He screamed at me for like 10 minutes than fell asleep. I am really not a fan of CIO, but it was the only thing that would work (I do not want to night wean either).

ETA: DS has plenty of calories during the day and I am blaming this on separate anxiety.

[karinothing]

So, during the week at daycare he does 2 naps sort of. One at daycare that is short (like 30 minutes) and then one in the car ride home (I sit in the parked care to make it at least 30 minutes ha ha). On the weekends though he just takes one long nap. He falls asleep well at night too (around 7/730). And then tends to sleep in till like 830am or so if I let him (during the week we wake up earlier for work/daycare).

So I am not sure there is any connection to how much sleep he gets during the day or what time he goes to bed. I really think it has to do with separation anxiety at this point, but who knows.

[beaver12]

I'd try giving her a dose of ibuprofen before bed. When DS is teething he does the exact same thing. It's like he needs the pressure from nursing. I get the creepy crawlies from being a human pacifier too. Good luck!

[thedash]

She may be getting too many hours in bed per day. Until I read Ferber I thought DS should have been sleeping more than he actually needed to and it created problems.

[hannamaren]

How many naps are you at? We are still at 2, I feel like we just transitioned from 3.
However, she sometimes refuses to sleep at 9am and extends her wake time. Then she stills sleeps in the afternoon

Have you tried a pacifier?

[Deleted]

I'm sorry that sucks. It sounds like teething. I have a question though, Why are you not ready to night wean? I never breastfed, & I am not judging, I just hear that sometimes from friends who bf & I don't know why, but instead of asking them I am asking an Internet stranger lol.

[karinothing]

Aug 6, 2012 11:20:20 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

I'm sorry that sucks. It sounds like teething. I have a question though, Why are you not ready to night wean? I never breastfed, & I am not judging, I just hear that sometimes from friends who bf & I don't know why, I but instead of asking them I am asking an Internet stranger lol.

Not Domer, but I will try to answer. For me it is kind of hard to put into words. It does have an emotional connection, as in I don't feel emotionally ready to do it. Part of it is also just disagreeing with the assertion that babies don't need to eat overnight as of an uniform age. Part of it is because I realize that night weaning will likely involve many nights of no sleep and I am not strong enough for that ha ha.

[Deleted]

That makes sense Kari. DS started sttn at 7 weeks but has had times when he needed to eat once during the night during growth spurts. I agree that if your child is hungry at night they need to be fed, and I understand the emotional component, I sometimes miss DS's middle of the night snuggles. I was wondering if it was a supply or engorgement thing, like your boobs hurt so bad you NEED to nurse at night.

[karinothing]

Aug 6, 2012 11:44:19 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

That makes sense Kari. DS started sttn at 7 weeks but has had times when he needed to eat once during the night during growth spurts. I agree that if your child is hungry at night they need to be fed, and I understand the emotional component, I sometimes miss DS's middle of the night snuggles. I was wondering if it was a supply or engorgement thing, like your boobs hurt so bad you NEED to nurse at night.

Oh, yeah your boobs adjust to their sleeping pretty easily. So it might be annoying for a day or two, but then go back to normal. I did read somewhere that your supply is regulated largely by early morning nursing so that has helped me to stay motivated during 4am feeds.

[smallysmallz04]

It could be a growth spurt, if this is not normal sleep pattern. The better your LO sleeps durning the day the better they sleep at night. DS slept like shit for months around 8 months. So bad that Dh and I would take turns sleeping in his room so the other could get sleep. This lasted for about 2 months! We need the Ferber method and it saved our life! Ds became to reliant on us being there to play in the motn, that I think he got used to waking up. i know its not for everyone, but for us it was the best decision we made. DS has slept ever since (to this day) from 7pm to 8 am.

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[bunch]

No advice, but dd had a major sleep regression around then. I've read it's normal. She used to sttn, but hasn't since

[hannamaren]

Aug 6, 2012 20:39:32 GMT -5 bunch said:

No advice, but dd had a major sleep regression around then. I've read it's normal. She used to sttn, but hasn't since

I feel like Layla os regressing. She only eats at 4am, but she wakes at 11pm, 1am, just for a quick "shhhhhh" or water or pacifier.