DH pissed me off

[ohyouknow]

As many of you know, we are PCS'ing to Germany this summer. DH found out last Thursday that he has a 5 day course he has to go to before he arrives and families are invited and encouraged to attend at government expense. They will even provide daycare onsite if families can come. So DH texts and tells me the dates are in March. I was super sad, because the dates are a week before our huge report is due to SECDEF/Congress that my office has been working on for 18 months. And my office is stupid and of course we are behind and I know there is no way I can go that week in March. Then DH tells me there is another date its offered in May. I said "YES!!! Let's go! It will be so much fun, we'll leave the kids home with my parents, and we'll have an awesome week checking out Germany and where we might live, etc." He says he already told them he was going in March, he has a buddy going in March (who is local to us now, so it's not like he couldn't see him here if he wanted - and they still never hang out), and he didn't think I'd want to go because I've never been very interested in spousal issues like FRG/Key Spouse, etc.
Of course this resulted in me being very upset that he "gave away" the chance for him and I to have a kid-free week in Germany without even asking me first.  I'm not furious anymore, but my feelings are still hurt and I'm very disappointed. I know we are moving there, but once we move there I will be working every day, plus the kids put a damper on things. I had gotten very excited about checking out housing too. :-(

[meltoine]

Well that sucks.

[audette]

Well, dang! I'd be pissed off, too!


(and, holy jealous about the class - it sure would have been nice to have a class like that before moving to Korea... or even *gasp* a _sponsor_ who could have answered a few damn questions...)

[amaristella]

Time to have the "making assumptions" talk. (Again, if you've had it before)

[ohyouknow]

Stan - of course, lady! I'd love to talk to you! I swear I'm not as much of a mess as I seem online, lol. I'll message you my email address/FB info, since half the time when I log into Proboards it says my IP address is banned. (?!?!?)

Audette - I know.... I think a class would be totally helpful. Even if I'm not going to be active in any spousal activities (just too busy w/ work and kids and activities), it can't hurt to have the knowledge and also meet other people and network a little bit.

[audette]

A class would _totally_ be helpful. I'm guessing it's more about practical things - a few language basics (like hello, thank you, etc), cultural things for the new area, etc. Yes, meet and greet with other folks that will be at the same base, heading over there at roughly the same time would be valuable, too, but there has to be more to this class than just that...

In fact, I'd probably bug my husband into rescheduling, if at all possible.

[ohyouknow]

DH said he was willing to change it but by then we'd had a big fight about it and I dug in deep as a martyr and said no, lol. I went ahead and asked my boss if I can go. He is considering it. Basically he is spineless though, so I know what he is going to do is ask someone else what they think, and if they say yes then he'll say yes. Keep your fingers crossed he asks someone awesome.

[youhadmycuriosity]

I'd be pissed too! Hope you can go!