Parenting decisions among your friends

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Aug 6, 2012 20:36:47 GMT -5 bunch said:

For me it's not really the decisions, it's the attitude. I don't want to be around people who openly resent their kids (and I'm nOt talking occasional venting) so its hurt some relationships.

I have some friends who are antivax, some who CIO, some who ff by choice , some who bed share. I just don't really care. I just want to surround myself who keep positive about having kids. If not, I might go off the deep end, lol.

I do totally agree on that. Now that I think about it, the people I try to avoid are also the ones that sort of act like parenting is a war they need to win.

[cjeanette]

I was about to say I don't really care how other people raise their kids until I saw ijack's post. That would piss me off. A lot.

I don't mind delayed vax, but not at all is a problem for me.

[whitepicketfence]

We only have one set of friends that have kids and their little guy is only 4 months old so we haven't encountered this yet. They seem to have a similar parenting style as we do thus far so I'm not sure that we'll have any real issues.

[aspentosh]

Aug 6, 2012 10:28:58 GMT -5 Brie said:

I honestly don't care what they do when it comes to stuff like circ-ing and sleep training and BFing vs. FFing. It's their business and doesn't affect me.

Vaccinations are different, IMO, because their decision to not vax could have very serious implications for my child and family. That would be a dealbreaker in the friendship, IMO.

:Y:

[GailGoldie]

I don't give a damn what they do with sleep training or circ... or feeding, etc- as long as what they are doing isn't abusive/neglectful in some way - that is nobody's business but the parents.

As far as vax- as others have said- that can effect the health of my children -so i would not be around that person and their family with my children until my kids have had their vax's in full. But i wouldn't end a friendship over it.

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My SIL is anti-vax. We had some issues when we first brought our DS home from the hospital and for DS's birthday party. I probably wouldn't judge her so harshly for it if she had a valid reason, but she doesn't.
I haven't gotten into any debates on someone elses parenting choices, but I've definitely judged them in my head or to H. Especially one who doesn't believe in disciplining (unless safety is involved) her kids.