If you've already done IVF...

[jessnpaul]

I have no idea when my ER will be because obviously it depends on how I react to stims. Yesterday was only day 1. For arguments sake, let's say it occurs sometime next weekend... what do I do with my kid if he's not in daycare? My IL's or my mom would probably watch him but I'm trying to keep all this stuff on the down low and would rather not have to explain. 

Would we be able to bring him with us? Is there any point where DH wouldn't be able to watch him? DS came to my IUI (was on a Sunday) and it was fine but ER is obviously way more involved. 

[G22]

Not secondary IVF, but I thought I chime in and give you my experience.

I don't remember if my RE had a rule regarding bringing children on ER day. But as long as there wasn't that rule, the only time I can see it might be an issue is when they took me back to the surgical room, my H was directed to "his room" to give a sample. Depending on how old your child, is that would be the only time there wouldn't be anyone to watch him. But no idea if this is how its usually done at other offices.

[jessnpaul]

Trust me, I don't really want to bring him. I guess I will ask the nurses if I can even bring him in if this becomes an issue.

Thanks!

[ginkgoleaf]

I'm dealing with this now. I started stims 2 mondays ago and will likely have retrieval this weekend. I'm going to ask a friend, a teacher from his daycare who babysits, SIL, or I have a couple recs from a moms group. If none of those pans out, I'll send an email looking for a babysitter to our neighborhood list.

Our RE prohibits kids at retrieval.

[bronxgirl]

At our first retrieval my MIL was going to watch DD, but cancelled at the last minute, so we brought her. At first the nurse gave me a hard time, but when I said the babysitter cancelled at the last minute (and pointed out that they don't answer the phone on weekends so I couldn't even call and ask what to do) she softened up and figured out a solution. She sat with me while my husband produced his sample and then he was available to watch her after that.

[ssg73]

For our retrieval we had a friend watch dd. My mom watched her for transfer. It was kind of a cluster figuring out what to do for transfer although I can't remember why. There was an older child (prob 8) in the waiting room it was fine but I thought a bit strange when the dad left him to do his part. I guess for us it is a bit less problematic as our sperm comes in a tank and I don't really do anything but sit and wait around for retrieval. One of the fet fell on a school day so we didn't have to worry about it. The last one my mom watched again. It is easier since my parents know what is going on.