Post by stealthmom on Jan 15, 2015 19:08:50 GMT -5
Politely decline. Run far far away and avoid in the future. If your kids want to be real friends in the future cross that bridge w hen you come to it. But for now just stay away.
I'm really bad at this shit. How do you "break up" w a friend?
I have a similar dramatic enabler friend and her dramatic alcoholic husband. Too much drama! I just stopped returning her calls, hoping she'd get the idea. She's now moved on to hounding DH (who barely knows her) over FB, asking him to tell me to call her.
If you really don't want to be the bad guy (and I seriously think that's why she invited you) if you want to put up with the party and then stop engaging and returning calls/texts it will be harder for her to paint you as bad. But you'd most likely have to put up with a good chunk of the party.
Post by zeewifeandmama on Jan 15, 2015 19:19:10 GMT -5
Wait, I'm confused. I thought she kind of bitched you out about not inviting her hubs to the party and saying that they " get it" wasn't that them kind of breaking up with you? I'm surprised at the invite. I mean except that they're drama llamas
Wait, I'm confused. I thought she kind of bitched you out about not inviting her hubs to the party and saying that they " get it" wasn't that them kind of breaking up with you?
But then invites us to her kid's party?
That's what I mean, I was surprised at the twist in the story. Except they're drama llamas.
I broke up with a crazy friend once (she actually sounds a lot like your friend). And we were pretty f-ing close. I had to do it cold turkey/no contact/decline everything/shut everything down. It took me like six months of attempting to break up before I finally realized she couldn't be just an acquaintance/friend. It was all or nothing. I would give in to one text and it would just open Pandora's box and I would get sucked back into the friendship.
It's hard, but some people are just toxic and you have to shut the whole thing down.
I knew a girl at school called Pandora. Never got to see her box, though.
OP - I would make other plans so that you have some answer if she does ask why you can't go. But absolutely skip it. Not to be dramatic and all "what about the childreeeeeen?!" about it but I don't want drunks, cheaters, racists, etc in my home. I don't want them around my kids or my marriage - bad energy.
I broke up with a crazy friend once (she actually sounds a lot like your friend). And we were pretty f-ing close. I had to do it cold turkey/no contact/decline everything/shut everything down. It took me like six months of attempting to break up before I finally realized she couldn't be just an acquaintance/friend. It was all or nothing. I would give in to one text and it would just open Pandora's box and I would get sucked back into the friendship.
It's hard, but some people are just toxic and you have to shut the whole thing down.
I knew a girl at school called Pandora. Never got to see her box, though.
I see what you did there! Box jokes never get old!