Anyone heard of this new show...

[crimewatcher]

on TLC called My Teen is Pregnant and so am I?

I got sucked into it the other day. They follow two sets and one of them was this gem.

www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/02/my-teen-is-pregnant-mom-happy-daughter-pregnant-video_n_1731629.html

The link gives a pretty good snap shot but what isn't included is the fact that the Mom (Ann) was/is not happy about her own pregnancy because she found out she was pregnant a week after her divorce was final with the father. They conceived during a random hook up while finalizing the divorce. How much does that suck?!

so Lemon beeee strongggg! haha I couldn't help but think of your XH and his booty call requests.

Andplusalso Liz (the teen) thought having a baby would be more fun and during the show she talked about how all she wanted to do was play dress up with the baby. YIKES!


I'm curious to hear other's opinions on whether it's better to be best friends vs parent/child?


IMO I'd like to be done having kids by Mid 30s so I still have the energy to keep up with them and know I should be able to give them my time/energy and attention before I start to go downhill in age.

[brandienee]

Oh TLC... always having providing us with classy entertainment.

SMH

[brandienee]

As far as being a "Best friend" with your child... no. I've never felt that way toward my mother, because the boundary line was always there. I even don't feel that way toward my Mother In Law. And I don't think that I could play "best friends" with my phantom children.

For one, it creates a bigger emotional expectation than is necessary. (What if you get divorced and expect your BFF Daughter to take your side on all things, but she loves her dad too?)

And secondly, how do you discipline or teach your best friend?

[crimewatcher]

My thought is.. the child doesn't need another best friend, they need a mother.

My Mom and I are very close and I am pretty open with her, but she is still my Mother. There is no way I could tell her some of the things I tell my BF(s).

I think being closer in age can make thing more relatable (<-- did I just make up that word? haha) but you still need to parent.

[basilosaurus]

My sister's coworker was pregnant at the same time as her daughter, only the daughter was in her mid 20s and the coworker in her late 30s. Neither was in a relationship, either. Awkward.

Lol to going downhill in age after 30. It's not that old, people.

[crimewatcher]

Sibil it's not old by any means- but my Dad had a child at 46 and passed away when my Brother was 6. Since I've got half his genes I'd rather not chance it.

[basilosaurus]

I get that. My mom died at 40, when I was 6. And that made me hesitant to want kids when I first started thinking about such life questions. But I've come to eel entirely different. I'm not my mom, I can be proactive about my health, and medicine has come a long way in 25 years if I were to develop the same cancer.

Mostly I react to people thinking they want energy. I feel as energetic at 31 as I did at 21. I probably sleep less now

Oh, and back to the show, I'm watching now. Mom is happy for her child? Mom thinks it's cute that her 17 year old daughter is knocked up by her 19 year old boyfriend? In most states, that's statutory rape, not a cute couple that's "practically like married."

[Deleted]

I will be strong! Lol. I have ten days and then my STBXH is in training for the next couple of months and will get stationed elsewhere!

[crimewatcher]

haha I love my H. I was telling him about this show his reply, "So much for being The Learning Channel"

It's still good for my guilty pleasures.

[ilovelamp]

:-| to the 17 year old saying "I'm so glad it finally happened." Huh?

[kcd0531]

Wow… and hells to the no I am not my DD's BFF. She needs a parent more than another friend. And I'm definitely not BFFs with my own mother; our relationship is complicated enough without trying to go down that road.

[drunkpeggy]

Aug 7, 2012 10:25:08 GMT -5 ilovelamp said:

to the 17 year old saying "I'm so glad it finally happened." Huh?

That was a quote directly out of my cousin's 2nd baby mama. She purposely conceived their son because she was jealous of my cousin's 1st son from her ex-girlfriend.

Guess who pawns off her kid at every chance she can get and is playing house with another guy now?

[kcd0531]

Aug 8, 2012 13:56:30 GMT -5 drunkpeggy said:

Aug 7, 2012 10:25:08 GMT -5 ilovelamp said:

to the 17 year old saying "I'm so glad it finally happened." Huh?

That was a quote directly out of my cousin's 2nd baby mama. She purposely conceived their son because she was jealous of my cousin's 1st son from her ex-girlfriend.

Guess who pawns off her kid at every chance she can get and is playing house with another guy now?

That makes me so sad for the kid.