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Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.
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you know, I just reread page one to see if you got your ass handed to you before it was warranted. And you didn't. You were getting fairly benign criticism that didn't even approach flaming until you called everybody a bunch of flaming bitches with holier than thou attitudes. The worst you had gotten till then was emmy saying, "no, that's fucking weird." And from emmy that's practically a hug and a kind word.
And Compassion Fail Part Deux moves over here. *sigh*
Let's talk about yarn. I know all about yarn. And fabric. I love fabric!! Oh and mayo! Um...okay, I don't *love* mayo, but it has its place. Miracle Whip, on the other hand, is satan spooge. Blech!
Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.
SHUT UP!!! Oh my God. You soooooo could have had the good will of this board and you SPENT it on the first fucking page of that thread. My God, why are you still hanging on 13 pages later?!? You could have gone with a "hmmm shrug I didn't *mean* it to be that way" and instead you've gone on for 13 pages about how awesome and informed and tolerant you are and what a giant burlap sack full of whores the rest of us are. As if the mere difference of opinion on this topic is an indication of a character flaw in everyone.
And for the last time, the problem ISN'T what you did. It's the way you have defended it. For real. I'm sure there are more than a handful of people out there, including some who actually posted in that thread, who thought what you did was nice or was at least done with your heart in the right place. But you have undone all of that. No one wants to support you because you have been such a snatchwagon for the past 4 hours.
Come back tomorrow. Pretend today didn't happen. GBCN allows for this. Believe me. But jesus, mary, and fucking joseph, shut up about your amazing fucking tolerance and compassion.
And Compassion Fail Part Deux moves over here. *sigh*
Let's talk about yarn. I know all about yarn. And fabric. I love fabric!! Oh and mayo! Um...okay, I don't *love* mayo, but it has its place. Miracle Whip, on the other hand, is satan spooge. Blech!
sorry. As penance - tell me your thoughts on the blogger trend of using home depot drop clothes as home decor fabric.
I'm gonna need a lot of window treatments in the next year or so, and they look nice in pictures, but i feel like it'll look cheap as shit in person.
And Compassion Fail Part Deux moves over here. *sigh*
Let's talk about yarn. I know all about yarn. And fabric. I love fabric!! Oh and mayo! Um...okay, I don't *love* mayo, but it has its place. Miracle Whip, on the other hand, is satan spooge. Blech!
sorry. As penance - tell me your thoughts on the blogger trend of using home depot drop clothes as home decor fabric.
I'm gonna need a lot of window treatments in the next year or so, and they look nice in pictures, but i feel like it'll look cheap as shit in person.
What?! This is a thing?! Yeah, I'm going to have to see pictures.
Also IKEA sells decor fabric rather cheaply, and while some is on the garish side, some of it is really lovely.
I like the curtains with the ribbon trim but I hate that she hot glued it. I'd have sewn it, but I'm kind of picky about those little details. I've never thought about using drop cloth. They don't look terrible.
Nope, it's the typical group-think attack that happens on this board.
SHUT UP!!! Oh my God. You soooooo could have had the good will of this board and you SPENT it on the first fucking page of that thread. My God, why are you still hanging on 13 pages later?!? You could have gone with a "hmmm shrug I didn't *mean* it to be that way" and instead you've gone on for 13 pages about how awesome and informed and tolerant you are and what a giant burlap sack full of whores the rest of us are. As if the mere difference of opinion on this topic is an indication of a character flaw in everyone.
And for the last time, the problem ISN'T what you did. It's the way you have defended it. For real. I'm sure there are more than a handful of people out there, including some who actually posted in that thread, who thought what you did was nice or was at least done with your heart in the right place. But you have undone all of that. No one wants to support you because you have been such a snatchwagon for the past 4 hours.
Come back tomorrow. Pretend today didn't happen. GBCN allows for this. Believe me. But jesus, mary, and fucking joseph, shut up about your amazing fucking tolerance and compassion.
My point has not been to claim that I am so tolerant or compassionate, but to dispute that 1) it's weird/offensive to reach out to a stranger, 2) that you must be profiling if you can tell that a man wearing a turban is a Shikh, 3) that people don't appreciate others reaching out to them to express sorrow at what has happened to other members of their group and 4) that you might suffer from white guilt to feel and express such sorrow.
I really don't care if I don't have the support of a bunch of strangers. And I don't think that having a difference of opinion is a character flaw - it was clear what direction this was going to go in from the beginning once the "regulars" came in and started piling on about how weird/offensive/ignorant it is. Perhaps you don't see it because you are a regular poster, but as someone who reads a lot more than she posts, the whole group-think mean girl pileup is a common occurance on this board. Despite the numerous clarifications I've made as to what I said, why I was able to identify him as a Sikh, my intentions for saying something to him, his own response to me, and my intentions for my OP, people still continue to ignore all that and rail on with their preconcieved notions of how they think this all went down and/or what I really meant. That's okay, and to be expected on this board.
I've also since apologized for some of the language I've used because that is something I try to avoid on here. I used to join in the pile-ons in my knot days when I was in a bad place in my life, and I've since made a concerted effort not to be that person. So again, I apologize for calling people "bitches". I do stand by my comment that the regulars on here tend to suffer from mean girl group think however.
Anyway, I'm not sure why so many of you are still so up in arms about this. Who would have thought that a simple post about feeling bad about breaking terrible news to someone would garner this much rage?
My point has not been to claim that I am so tolerant or compassionate, but to dispute that 1) it's weird/offensive to reach out to a stranger, 2) that you must be profiling if you can tell that a man wearing a turban is a Shikh, 3) that people don't appreciate others reaching out to them to express sorrow at what has happened to other members of their group and 4) that you might suffer from white guilt to feel and express such sorrow.
I really don't care if I don't have the support of a bunch of strangers. And I don't think that having a difference of opinion is a character flaw - it was clear what direction this was going to go in from the beginning once the "regulars" came in and started piling on about how weird/offensive/ignorant it is. Perhaps you don't see it because you are a regular poster, but as someone who reads a lot more than she posts, the whole group-think mean girl pileup is a common occurance on this board. Despite the numerous clarifications I've made as to what I said, why I was able to identify him as a Sikh, my intentions for saying something to him, his own response to me, and my intentions for my OP, people still continue to ignore all that and rail on with their preconcieved notions of how they think this all went down and/or what I really meant. That's okay, and to be expected on this board.
I've also since apologized for some of the language I've used because that is something I try to avoid on here. I used to join in the pile-ons in my knot days when I was in a bad place in my life, and I've since made a concerted effort not to be that person. So again, I apologize for calling people "bitches". I do stand by my comment that the regulars on here tend to suffer from mean girl group think however.
Anyway, I'm not sure why so many of you are still so up in arms about this. Who would have thought that a simple post about feeling bad about breaking terrible news to someone would garner this much rage?
You really, honestly do not get it and that makes this no longer fun. It's like trying to play catch with a two legged blind puppy.
I think it's you who honestly doesn't get it. I've explained in detail my thoughts on the matter and my intentions, yet you keep trying to assign meaning that isn't there. That's okay though.