Oh MIL

[meltoine]

MIL makes no secret of the fact that she hates that H is in the military and wishes he would get out. Today, she sent him (and CCed me) a posting on USA Jobs that bears absolutely no resemblance to anything H is qualified to do or would want to do, with a message saying, "Here's a great opportunity for you! It's right here in NY (where she lives) and the hours are flexible so you could still be in the cost guard if you want"

Because the "cost guard" is a thing and is just like the Air National Guard, which is what H has mentioned in the past. Oy. 

[audette]

Oh, goodness. Great to see such awesome support from your MIL...

(yes, that was sarcasm...)

[brandienee]

Oh... well... That's nice of her.

She sounds like so much fun during the holidays.

[Deleted]

Yikes. I'm sorry.

(whenever people ask me "when do I get out", I tell them I'm in the Air Force, not prison).

Why does she hate that he's in the military? Is it because of moving around and not living close by anymore?

[meltoine]

Jan 21, 2015 21:47:19 GMT -5 @villainv said:

Yikes. I'm sorry.

(whenever people ask me "when do I get out", I tell them I'm in the Air Force, not prison).

Why does she hate that he's in the military? Is it because of moving around and not living close by anymore?

The emigrated from the Middle East after college mostly to avoid conscription for themselves and their kids, so to have their kid turn around and join willingly was somewhat hard for them to adjust to. 

[amaristella]

Jan 22, 2015 0:49:47 GMT -5 meltoine said:

Jan 21, 2015 21:47:19 GMT -5 @villainv said:

Yikes. I'm sorry.

(whenever people ask me "when do I get out", I tell them I'm in the Air Force, not prison).

Why does she hate that he's in the military? Is it because of moving around and not living close by anymore?

The emigrated from the Middle East after college mostly to avoid conscription for themselves and their kids, so to have their kid turn around and join willingly was somewhat hard for them to adjust to. 

I have to say I can't really blame them if things like that are in their background. I'm sure that their past experiences have had a profound effect on their opinions. My first thought, though, is that she really wants your husband to be closer to her geographically. Lots of moms are like that. For sure.

[ohyouknow]

Jan 22, 2015 1:03:32 GMT -5 Stan said:

My parents hate that I'm in for the most part and H's parents hate me because he's still in, lol.

And the poor Coast Guard. They're selective as heck and they have this weird reputation of being like an easy fallback. They're neither easy nor a fallback (I'm well aware that you know this). The Guard on the other hand, while not easy per se, also might not take YH. There's so few slots for officers, and it just gets worse the higher the rank. I know you know these things, but ugh.

For the first time in my life I'm working closely with CG peeps. Are they all weird, or have we just gotten 3 weirdos back-to-back?  They each seem to have huge quirks.

I think the "easy" stereotype comes from things like not having a PT test to pass and not being under DoD.  

[meltoine]

Jan 22, 2015 1:03:32 GMT -5 Stan said:

My parents hate that I'm in for the most part and H's parents hate me because he's still in, lol.

And the poor Coast Guard. They're selective as heck and they have this weird reputation of being like an easy fallback. They're neither easy nor a fallback (I'm well aware that you know this). The Guard on the other hand, while not easy per se, also might not take YH. There's so few slots for officers, and it just gets worse the higher the rank. I know you know these things, but ugh.

She wasn't saying it because she thinks they're easy or a fallback. H has been in contact with several ANG units who are interested in him if he decides to leave AD. He's up for them majors board right now and having a backup plan eases his anxiety, so he's been investigating the ANG for a year now. 

And MIL just has no idea that there's a difference between the CG and the ANG. I mean, they both have Guard in the name, ya know?

[panicked]

She sounds like a peach. Some of my dh's family is like that. "It's so dangerous! You'll die overseas! Etc.." They are not going to be happy when we tell them about his next assignment...

[prettyinpink]

Oh my. I feel your pain but in the opposite direction. When E got out MIL begged him to go back I and blamed me for him getting out. I had nothing to do with his choice. And then when he was applying to jobs when he got out she'd send him emails with the most ridiculous jobs in the strangest places.