Another Intro...:-)

[VillainV]

Another intro here...

My husband and I have been married since April, but it's a second marriage for me (no kids from the first), and we're 31 and 33, so we decided it's time to go off birth control and get things rolling:-)

I just finished my last pack of pills. I had super-regular periods before BCP, but that was like 12 years ago, so I'm curious to see how it goes. I've lurked on here a little bit, and I know everyone says "chart chart chart!" but I tend to get pretty obsessive about things like that, so I think I'll see how my cycle goes for a few months. I'm pretty aware of my CM already, so I think we'll try not charting temps at first and see how it goes.

In my head I know it's no big deal if it takes several months, but in my heart I know that both my husband and I will probably be a little bit disappointed if it doesn't happen fairly quickly. I like the idea of "taking charge of my fertility" (have yet to read the book, though I have definitely been educating myself), but I really really really don't want this to be the next thing that I obsess over. I'm interested to see how everyone else walks this line...

[mimosas]

I could have written this post. I obsess and over analyze as well which is one of the reasons I didn't want to start charting (plus I heard wine interferes and I'll hopefully be giving that up soon enough anyway). I'm very aware of my cycle between CM and FF, but we're almost five months in with no luck yet so it might be time to start charting.

I felt the same about being fine with it taking months/a year... until we started trying. Now I'm so invested and every month with a BFN sucks no matter how much I tell myself we're in no rush.

[winecheery]

Hiya

I can become fixated on things too, and so I'm trying to just let my body adjust to things before I get incredibly invested in "trying trying".

I am keeping track of my cycle in the sense that I am counting days to see if I'll end up with a 21, 28 or 32 day cycle being off the pill, and so I can keep my Dr. in the loop with details. Doing this, I'll be aware of the days I'm probably ovulating, obviously.

But I am going to just focus on having a healthy sex life with DH (which we do anyways! ) and watch for any weirdness in my cycle before I get really into true charting, temping, worrying etc.

I haven't decided if I'll be temping or not anyways...I do have O predictor kits tho.

Basically all I'm really saying is I hear you on the potential to fixate, and
so my plan is to act like nothing's changed; at least initially.

[VillainV]

It's good to know I'm not the only one who fixates and over-analyzes. I'm very type-A and goal-oriented, and when I get an idea in my head I tend to focus on it. Though, I managed not to obsess over our wedding, so hopefully I can stay more relaxed about TTC as well.

[vivaladiva]

Ditto all-of-this ^^^ I only went bridezilla for reals on 2 unique occasions, but the rest of it was planned but not obsessive. Baby-makin' though...it is totally not up to us. It's kind of incredible what has to all line up and happen at the right time, and then I see ppl gettin' all sorts of KTFU. Sometimes I feel like Charlotte ("I keep reading about people getting pregnant just LOOKING at each other!") and then I remember her first marrage imploded b/c of baby fever and I try to calm myself down.

[jenn1298]

I have a friend who has gotten KU twice now when they weren't even trying. The first time it was a total shock to them and they weren't really ready, but the second time they were going to start TTC a couple of months later and just got KU earlier. Whenever I think about it I get very jealous because she didn't have to go through the obsessive months of tracking and hoping for a BFP.

[winecheery]

Aug 7, 2012 8:00:06 GMT -5 vivaladiva said:

Sometimes I feel like Charlotte ("I keep reading about people getting pregnant just LOOKING at each other!") and then I remember her first marrage imploded b/c of baby fever and I try to calm myself down.

DON'T GO THE WAY OF CHARLOTTE!!!

[VillainV]

Well, H and I sat down yesterday and had a good talk. I filled him in on all of the reading I've done over the last week (after all, it's been a LONG time since either of us took Sex Ed, and we've each spent the better part of our adult lives trying to PREVENT pregnancy). He thought charting temps sounded like a good idea, so that's what we'll go with. He understands my tendency to be obsessive about things, and said that if it gets to be too much we can just take a step back. I feel a lot better after having this talk with him -- I think it helped to manage our expectations.

Then when I was at work he went out and bought me a digital thermometer and (his and hers!) prenatal vitamins. Very cute:-)

[Cheesecake]

Getting obsessive over this seems kinda normal if you think about it. As soon as you understand how it works and how small the chances really are (except for when you're a teen, and drunk, and an asshole! God, I hate those girls!) it just doesn't make sense to not at least figure out your cycle so you don't accidentally prevent pregnancy.

With us, I'm keeping the charting and stuff to myself. He realizes I chart (and I'm sure he figures what time it is when I suddenly initiate sex 4 days in a row - that's just not what usually happens with us) but I don't keep analyzing and sharing the status of my mucus or anything all the time. I'm one to analyze and that works for me, he's really not, so I don't push that on him.

He did laugh at me for reading TCOYF, and stated: "wow, that's a very big book to tell you that we should just have a lot of sex".

[VillainV]

Aug 8, 2012 3:49:15 GMT -5 Cheesecake said:

Getting obsessive over this seems kinda normal if you think about it. As soon as you understand how it works and how small the chances really are (except for when you're a teen, and drunk, and an asshole! God, I hate those girls!) it just doesn't make sense to not at least figure out your cycle so you don't accidentally prevent pregnancy.

With us, I'm keeping the charting and stuff to myself. He realizes I chart (and I'm sure he figures what time it is when I suddenly initiate sex 4 days in a row - that's just not what usually happens with us) but I don't keep analyzing and sharing the status of my mucus or anything all the time. I'm one to analyze and that works for me, he's really not, so I don't push that on him.

He did laugh at me for reading TCOYF, and stated: "wow, that's a very big book to tell you that we should just have a lot of sex".

Yeah, I think he's going to leave the analysis up to me:-)