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Jan 30, 2015 20:07:55 GMT -5 krisandgrace said:

Jan 30, 2015 17:09:18 GMT -5 flex said:

Like @courtneyloves said: just tell your story.  Plus, in the Big Book it gives tips to the family of the alcoholic on how to find help for their loved one. 

Does your cousin want to see you?  Or is his GF telling him he has to meet with you?

He originally got sober two years ago and at that time I did tell him my story and invited to go to a meeting with me. Once I got him set up with a sponcer I let him take it from there. A couple of months ago he adtmitted he had been drinking again and went into a 30 day program and a month of out patient. He seemed to be doing great so this is really disappointing.

His grandmother who raised him/ my aunt is in the last week or so of the final stages of cancer. We are a small close family so this has been a hard time for all of us. I talked to my sponsor tonight and she advised to to offer support and recommend Al-Anon to his girlfriend but there was very little I could do for him unless he asked for help. I love the AA community but man I hate this disease.

Your sponsor is very wise.  The reason why I asked if he wanted to see you is because his GF may not understand how alcoholics react to "unwanted" help.  I hope you can steer his GF in the right direction.  : )

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krisandgrace, were you able to meet with your cousin this weekend? How did things go?

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Feb 2, 2015 0:00:09 GMT -5 @courtneyloves said:

krisandgrace, were you able to meet with your cousin this weekend? How did things go?

Thanks for asking. I went over Saturday to talk to his girlfriend and DH came to talk to him. DH thinks of him as a little brother but even though he isn't in the program he was very tough love. His girlfriend mentioned taking her daughter and moving back home which I encouraged. She had admitted that before he went into rehab she found out he had the 3 year old in the car with him while drunk. She did say that she also had to call an anbulance once because he drank so much that she couldn't wake him up, I told her I was worried too but she had to take care of herself and protect her daughter.

We agreed to talk again in a couple of days, he had a friend comming by to take him to a meeting that night. I did decide not to tell my aunt who will only probably be alive for another week or so, I would like her to leave this world still thinking he is doing well.

I'm out of work due to more snow which sounds good but I would rather be at work busy then have a day to sit around and think. I just have to keep reminding myself that I can't force him to get sober.