Post by andrewsgal on Jan 30, 2015 15:24:13 GMT -5
This could get long.
I don't have many friends who are parents at my kids school. I began to make some last year in the PTA but the drama was too much so I backed way up.
There is a mom I have known for years but we aren't close. Anyway they live in our neighborhood and her two kids are in the same class. We have slowly begun forming a friendship and she seems nice enough. She has a reputation for being hard on teachers but that's really not my business.
Our older kids got a new teacher and no one was happy about it. Last week this mom texts me to tell me that the new teacher is a yeller and has been yelling at the kids all week according to her daughter. I ask DD and she tells me this isn't true that the new teacher is so nice and never yells. Okay whatever. Mon this mom texts me and tells me the new teacher is taking away the kids free time because some kids are misbehaving according to her daughter. I ask DD and once again this isn't the case. The kids can actually earn more free time than before. I tell the mom what's really going on and chalk both situations up to a misunderstanding on her daughters part.
Yesterday we were supposed to meet at the park after school but she calls me at 10:40 to tell me she is sick and can't make it. Fine no big deal I pick my kids up and take them to the park. She texts me last night at 9:00 to tell me DD was mean to her daughter and told her daughter she was mad at her because they canceled the play date and that DD told her friends to be mad too. Um okay except my daughter didn't even know about the canceled play date until I picked her up from school. So I asked DD and she had no clue what I was talking about and said she didn't even talk to or play with the daughter.
So obviously the daughter makes up stories and the parents believe every word. Which is probably what's behind the mom not getting along with her daughters teachers all these years. I really just think we need to stay away from them and don't want my DD to really even be friends with hers. The lying is ridiculous and in the end I only think it will get my DD in trouble.
What says SAHM? Am I over reacting or should we just find other friends?
Team find new friends. Either you're doing exactly what she is (in her eyes) or you're calling her speshul snoflake a liar. None of which will go over well. Could be wrong, but if you're not that close, no loss, ya know?
Are your DD and her DD good friends? Or just.. acquaintances ?
Yea, I wouldn't want to be any closer to her. You are likely right that the daughter is the issue between her & the teachers. As long as the 2 girls aren't BFFs asking to play all the time, I'm sure you can just slowly back off.
If she keeps texting things about the teachers, you might need to say something like, "We're very happy w/ Miss X and DD keeps me up to date w/ what's going on in the class," etc.
Post by andrewsgal on Jan 30, 2015 15:37:22 GMT -5
No DD would absolutely never chose to be friends with her daughter. The little girl has no friends which kind on makes me feel bad for her, and was a reason I was more pushing DD to be friends with her.
No DD would absolutely never chose to be friends with her daughter. The little girl has no friends which kind on makes me feel bad for her, and was a reason I was more pushing DD to be friends with her.
This makes me feel bad. I know kids lie but excessive lying is probably just indicative of another underlying problem.
I'd probably still encourage DD to be friends but talk with her about understanding she may not always be truthful.
I'd back away from a friendship with the mom or just tell her matter of factly what is actually going on.
Yea, I wouldn't want to be any closer to her. You are likely right that the daughter is the issue between her & the teachers. As long as the 2 girls aren't BFFs asking to play all the time, I'm sure you can just slowly back off.
If she keeps texting things about the teachers, you might need to say something like, "We're very happy w/ Miss X and DD keeps me up to date w/ what's going on in the class," etc.
this. you could follow up with not wanting to be in the middle.
did you respond at all about her saying your dd was mean?
Yea, I wouldn't want to be any closer to her. You are likely right that the daughter is the issue between her & the teachers. As long as the 2 girls aren't BFFs asking to play all the time, I'm sure you can just slowly back off.
If she keeps texting things about the teachers, you might need to say something like, "We're very happy w/ Miss X and DD keeps me up to date w/ what's going on in the class," etc.
this. you could follow up with not wanting to be in the middle.
did you respond at all about her saying your dd was mean?
I just said I am Sorry that it happened and I would talk to DD.
Post by rosesandpetals on Jan 30, 2015 16:23:57 GMT -5
I would back off. It would be different if she were asking "what do you think of miss Smith? Dd thinks she yells a lot." But it sounds like she is just trying to rile you up, hoping you'll give the teacher a hard time with her.
I might encourage dd to steer clear without being mean.
Team new friends also. I would distance yourself from her and not push DD to be friends with her DD. She doesn't sound like someone that would be a good friend anyway.
Post by andrewsgal on Jan 30, 2015 16:53:09 GMT -5
I know you guys are right thanks. I swear the parents at her school are worse than highschool. Sigh I will just keep and strengthen the amazing friendships I already have.
I would back off. It would be different if she were asking "what do you think of miss Smith? Dd thinks she yells a lot." But it sounds like she is just trying to rile you up, hoping you'll give the teacher a hard time with her.
I might encourage dd to steer clear without being mean.