We had talked about rings and he did better than I could have dreamed. Surprised me with the date as well (Presidents day as I am a history major and am a good amurican).
My relationship with my ILs is strained and weird and not at all natural. And that's before any money issues are brought to the table.
Twinsies.
I actually have a very good relationship with my IL's/MIL. I still would not have wanted her to be part of the e-ring selection. It may not be the same as purchasing lingerie but I still see it as something personal/intimate between a (future) husband and wife.
The reason why I asked was because this is what happened in my family. Knowing the mother and son, I get it (and it makes sense) but I wonder how the future wife feels about it.
H asked me what I liked and then went out with his dad and brother and got me something different lol.
He said that what I wanted was out of our price range unless we were going to deal with tiny ass stones and he wasn't dealing with tiny ass stones. I swear to you his standards for a ring were higher than mine lol.
Post by basilosaurus on Aug 7, 2012 19:18:09 GMT -5
I've never heard of taking along a female relative. Is that just because pretty much everyone I know lives nowhere near family? If H had asked my mom she would have told him to ask me. And then she would have called me b/c she ruins surprises
I've never heard of taking along a female relative. Is that just because pretty much everyone I know lives nowhere near family? If H had asked my mom she would have told him to ask me. And then she would have called me b/c she ruins surprises
I don't know how common it is, but I find it interesting that none of the PCE DH's did this.
DW proposed without a ring so the next day we went shopping. We found a setting we both really liked and then went to the diamond district in NYC to purchase the stone.
She found a wedding band from the same designer of my band that she really liked so I bought that as her engagement ring. For the actual wedding ring I gave her a sapphire.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Aug 7, 2012 21:03:17 GMT -5
We picked out the rings together after we were engaged. I did NOT want him dropping money on a ring before it was decided. And I told him so when he started pestering me about what I might like. That whole tradition rubs me the wrong way. I actually didn't want to wear a ring at all, but agreed because it was important to DH, under the condition that he would wear one that matched. We browsed together a tiny bit before deciding on custom rings that we designed together and I made.
I would not have been happy if he had gone ring shopping with his mom or someone like that. For one thing, I think that's weird and nobody else's business, and for another she probably would have talked him into spending way too much money on entirely the wrong kind of ring. I also don't wear jewelry in general, so he wouldn't have had anything to go on...
We picked out my ring together. I had very specific ideas of what I wanted, and he knew that with my previous failed engagement, I had hated the e-ring that the ex picked. DH was afraid of getting it wrong.
As for his mom, other people can joke about their MiL getting a pretty necklace while they get a cheap ring. When we were picking out my Chinese wedding dress with her, instead of me getting a new dress made to my measurements, I ended up with one off the rack that barely almost fit if I didn't sit down. She got two coats that cost more than the hand tailored dress would have cost.
Post by vanillacourage on Aug 7, 2012 21:14:41 GMT -5
I printed out pics of some rings I loved and some that I hated, to give him an idea of my style. The one I said was my favorite, he had a jeweler special-order as they didn't sell in our state. Thus, I picked out my own ring without knowing it.
We picked out our rings together. We'd discussed getting engaged for a while but the timeline got a little bit jacked up because of Prop 8 so we exchanged our "engagement" rings during our city hall ceremony and bought each other "wedding bands" for our 1 year anniversary. After we talked about it and agreed we wanted to get engaged we considered ourselves engaged and then when we found out we were going to get married in Oct. rather than in June because of the marriage legality thing, we went ring shopping before the ceremony. We ended up getting the same setting (and later the matching wedding band) with small diamonds on the sides and each chose a colored center stone in colors we liked. I absolutely love my ring and she loves hers, so I guess we must have similar taste!