FIL...not good.

[Pom]

So, the assisted living facility did not seem overly concerned about FIL on Friday when Mr. P called. The nurse said he was eating and doing okay, but had the cough and labored breathing. They had confirmed it was pneumonia and had started him on antibiotics.



The head nurse just called. She said she FIL looked terrible when she came on shift today, she put oxygen on him and called an ambulance for transport to the hospital. His blood pressure was only 34. We talked about him having congestive heart failure and significant fluid build up a couple of months ago. His nurse practitioner had been around to see him at the hospital and called back to the AL facility and said he was not doing well and they should call us. She said we should give it a little while and then call the hospital to check in for an update with the doctor/staff.



I feel terrible we didn't call in over the weekend. We were going to call when Mr. P got back here from his meeting after lunch. I just called Mr. Pom at the office and told him.

I hate all of this because it's a fucked up jungle of tangled emotions.  

[orangeblossom]

Hugs. I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers to you all.

[irene adler]

I'm so sorry.

[niq]

I'm so sorry

[hamster]

I'm so sorry. Hugs.

[sicilygirl]

I'm so sorry. What a mess.

[Poppy]

Hugs.

[imojoebunny]

I am sorry. Does he want to be treated and have life exstending measures or is he done? If I remember correctly, he is not a happy man.

My grandfather committed suicide when he was in late stage congestive heart failure. He was of sound mind, but he was just done, and was a vet who believed in Euthanasia. I don't blame him. It sucks.

Hope they can keep him comfortable.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry Pom. I'm thinking of you guys.

[Deleted]

Oh Pom, I'm thinking of you. What a very lot to deal with.

[KaraOrNot]

I am so sorry. Hugs.

[raangoli]

I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you guys - it's such a tough spot to be in.

[lurknomore]

I'm sorry Pom. I know how hard this is...We went thru a scare with FIL last summer you may remember and both of us went thru all the emotions. Hang in there. Thinking of you.

[aurora]

Hugs. You're doing the best you can.

[explorer2001]

Sending hugs. I'm so sorry you are going through all this. Just know you guys have done the best you can and far more than most could/would.

[Pom]

Feb 2, 2015 12:45:06 GMT -5 imojoebunny said:

I am sorry. Does he want to be treated and have life exstending measures or is he done? If I remember correctly, he is not a happy man.

My grandfather committed suicide when he was in late stage congestive heart failure. He was of sound mind, but he was just done, and was a vet who believed in Euthanasia. I don't blame him. It sucks.

Hope they can keep him comfortable.

His medical directive says no extraordinary measures.  I believe he doesn't want to be where he is or the way he is... 
 

[nomad100]

((hugs))

[miniroller]

Thinking of you Pom I know so much easier said than done, but please try not to blame yourselves. If anyone should be shouldering any blame here, it's the weekend staff. Of course, playing the blame game is far from proactive; I just hope you can work to not feel guilty here- Not Your Fault!
T&p's for sure, lovely girl.

[gogreengowhite]

I'm so sorry Pom!

Sending you love and strength (in the most non-creepy way that can sound)

[arpb14]

I'm sorry.

[Pom]

I am sorry for bombarding you all with our on-going saga. You've been such a supportive part of this journey. I can't thank everyone enough.

[explorer2001]

Feb 2, 2015 13:16:24 GMT -5 Pom said:

I am sorry for bombarding you all with our on-going saga. You've been such a supportive part of this journey. I can't thank everyone enough.

Please don't be sorry. We are here for you because you are awesome and have been here for plenty of others. We are happy to do it and you deserve it and more. Hugs.

[starburst]

I'm so sorry. Sending good thoughts your way.

[mbcdefg]

I'm sorry - best wishes to all of you.

[gogreengowhite]

Feb 2, 2015 13:16:24 GMT -5 Pom said:

I am sorry for bombarding you all with our on-going saga. You've been such a supportive part of this journey. I can't thank everyone enough.

We are here for you, don't apologize.

Lean on us as much as you need.

[doobeedoo]

Feb 2, 2015 13:02:43 GMT -5 Pom said:

Feb 2, 2015 12:45:06 GMT -5 imojoebunny said:

I am sorry. Does he want to be treated and have life exstending measures or is he done? If I remember correctly, he is not a happy man.

My grandfather committed suicide when he was in late stage congestive heart failure. He was of sound mind, but he was just done, and was a vet who believed in Euthanasia. I don't blame him. It sucks.

Hope they can keep him comfortable.

His medical directive says no extraordinary measures.  I believe he doesn't want to be where he is or the way he is... 
 

Is Mr P on hospice?  If not, ask your social worker at the hospital about those services.  Hospice will come into the AL and provide all kinds of services and also a lot of peace of mind for you.   In fact, I worked with hospice to refuse antibiotics for my mom once as she had recurrent infections and at a certain point we realized that abx were, in a sense, like extraordinary measures.  I got looked at like I was a crazy person by hospital nurses and staf, but we stuck to our guns.  *hugs*

[ssmjlm]

Hugs.

[Pom]

Feb 2, 2015 13:34:51 GMT -5 doobeedoo said:

Feb 2, 2015 13:02:43 GMT -5 Pom said:

His medical directive says no extraordinary measures.  I believe he doesn't want to be where he is or the way he is... 
 

Is Mr P on hospice?  If not, ask your social worker at the hospital about those services.  Hospice will come into the AL and provide all kinds of services and also a lot of peace of mind for you.   In fact, I worked with hospice to refuse antibiotics for my mom once as she had recurrent infections and at a certain point we realized that abx were, in a sense, like extraordinary measures.  I got looked at like I was a crazy person by hospital nurses and staf, but we stuck to our guns.  *hugs*

Thank you for mentioning this.  I just talked to the ER doctor and he feels like the next 24 hours will be very touch and go. They got his blood pressure up but are very concerned about his kidneys and congestive heart failure.  I will talk with H about this when he comes home.   

[imojoebunny]

Feb 2, 2015 13:02:43 GMT -5 Pom said:

Feb 2, 2015 12:45:06 GMT -5 imojoebunny said:

I am sorry. Does he want to be treated and have life exstending measures or is he done? If I remember correctly, he is not a happy man.

My grandfather committed suicide when he was in late stage congestive heart failure. He was of sound mind, but he was just done, and was a vet who believed in Euthanasia. I don't blame him. It sucks.

Hope they can keep him comfortable.

His medical directive says no extraordinary measures.  I believe he doesn't want to be where he is or the way he is... 
 

{Hugs}. For you and Mr. P.  

[Deleted]

Pom sending you much love & strength, I am so sorry that you had such a scare with the new information, really hope the staff remains in good touch with you.