a little help please

[lovelovelove]

So this is probably silly, but I'm having so much trouble navigating life right now that I would really appreciate some advice.

DH made plans for his family to come visit us this coming weekend without asking me if it worked for me. When I found out I told him I didn't want to spend a whole weekend with his family pretending everything was fine (I'm not a huge fan of his family so spending time with them when things are good is difficult, let alone when we're in a crisis like this). I made plans with a friend and told him I'd be gone all day, that he could keep dd, and just tell his family sorry I had plans.

He just got off the phone with his step mom to discuss the weekend and he didn't tell them I wouldn't be around. Im pretty upset. I didn't want any of this to fall on me. Such a small thing but it's hitting me pretty hard.

What should I do? Email step mom and tell her he made the plans without checking with me? Let him deal with the whole thing?

I just feel like this is another step in him not taking the situation seriously. And him not listening to what I need.

[flex]

I vote letting him deal with the whole thing. It may be that he didn't want a bunch of questions from his stepmom if he told her you wouldn't be there.

Remember we keep telling you "you take care of you"? lol This is another one of those instances. Just go ahead with your plan to hang out with your friend. Don't feel obligated to stay at the house.

[lovelovelove]

Feb 2, 2015 18:48:13 GMT -5 flex said:

I vote letting him deal with the whole thing. It may be that he didn't want a bunch of questions from his stepmom if he told her you wouldn't be there.

Remember we keep telling you "you take care of you"? lol This is another one of those instances. Just go ahead with your plan to hang out with your friend. Don't feel obligated to stay at the house.

Thanks so much! I needed this reassurance. I guess I'm not doing a great job of taking care of me/having trouble figuring that out. Sorry if you feel like a broken record with me!

[flex]

No need to apologize, my dear. It takes lots and lots of practice to learn how to look out for and take care of yourself! : )

[gardengnome]

I agree with Flex. I would let DH deal with it. Good luck and hang in there.

[malibu]

H's family, H's problem.

[btay]

What Flex said. Always what Flex said