My husband/mom/brothers- no. They have always apologized and we have always been able to move past things.
My mil- fuck yea. Haha. I know it's not right, but this woman drives me to the brink of insanity. She pulled a lot of shitty things when my dd was a newborn, so she kind of lost me forever with that. She has never apologized, never taken responsibility or ownership of the crap she has said and done to me and my kid, so that definitely plays a big part in why I hold grudges against her.
If it's my immediate family (mom, sister, etc), no I don't hold grudges and even friends I tend not to. For some reason, though, I hold grudges with my MIL, SIL, and BIL like no other.
My MIL pulled some spectacular crap before and after our wedding and continues to make me feel like an outsider in H's family. SIL is just nasty and works really hard to make me feel like I don't belong. I don't think we've ever actually had a conversation before...I wish I could let it go because it IS H's family but those two women just make me :@
Post by bostonrunnah on Aug 8, 2012 12:19:46 GMT -5
It depends on what was said. Dumb things I would have held a grudge over before I can let go of now. But some things that are said just can't be taken back and I totally can't forget about it.
I work very hard at letting go of grudges. I have someone I can talk to in order to vent, and that really helps to relieve the burden.
Basically it comes down to accepting that person the way they are even though they may suck. I can't change them, and I cannot allow them to rent space in my head.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny