I found the ideas listed to be interestingly different from my usual ways of disciplining my kids, but not in a bad way. I may try some of them. I'm reading through the comments though, and it seems a lot of people think they are psychologically abusive. WDYT?
Post by schrodinger on Aug 8, 2012 10:04:47 GMT -5
We've used a bunch of those on the list on SD's with good success. When they were little and would throw a fit in a restaurant, we'd take them outside to the car and put them in their car seat until they calmed down. Once they realized that they weren't getting extra attention and that being separated from the "party" was no fun, they'd calm right down. Since around age 3 they've both been amazing in restaurants.
I think they are all good ideas for consequences as long as they are applied to the age-appropriate group. Its probably not fair to tell a 6 year old that she'll have to wait to take her driver's test, but to a young teenager -- totally appropriate. Same thing with the dog poop, not okay for an 8 year old, appropriate for a 13 year old.
We've talked before about taking the door off the hinges and that privacy in your bedroom is a privilege. One thing that our friends did with their misbehaving teenage daughter is take away her clothes and replace them with white t-shirts, jeans and Ked's. She had to earn back her clothing.
My mother did the early bedtime thing with me, & all it did was make me a horrible sleeper well into adulthood. I used to do something similar to noses to knees with the twins I used to nanny for. If they were getting too rowdy in the backseat I would pull the car over & put the whole car in time out for a few minutes. No radio no talking no singing no playing & if we missed a fun activity or playtime then oh well. I only had to do it like twice.
I think a few of the suggestions are reasonable and that others are awful.
FYI, this list is by Lisa Whelchel (of Facts of Life fame), whose books also endorse various methods of discipline that I find more deplorable than anything on this list, like hot saucing. She is really kind of crazy and probably not the best source of parenting advice for those who aren't into a really hard-core approach to discipline that includes physical punishment and a lot of talk about how it makes Jesus cry when kids are bad.