Post by margotmacomber on Aug 8, 2012 12:24:49 GMT -5
DH has a coworker that is married, with a one year old and a baby on the way. We have attempted over the past year or so to cultivate a casual relationship with the family, which included maybe three or four social interactions with various other couples/kids in attendance. No big deal here.
We are moving out of state in the the next few weeks. I had been friendly and hoping to establish a girl friendship with her, but it never really panned out due to me being in and out of state and all military schedules being wonky.
OOOOKKKAAAY anyway, this chick has organized a girls night out for tomorrow. With other women that I've never met. And I only know this girl semi casually. I don't want to go. I'm not a bubbly person, unless I'm a few sips into the good stuff. So, I'm decidedly not going. I'm moving soon and don't feel like going through the motions of something I have no interest in.
She organized childcare through her H and mine. She is texting me! OMG! Someone with social graces help me out!
The past two weekends there have been gatherings at their house, which H attended and I did not. Once because I was legitimately not feeling well, and the second because it was for a fantasy draft and since I'm not playing this year I didn't feel like attending. I'm already out of excuses here and I didn't even know I was going to need one.
5 paragraphs about margot being afraid of a girl she'll never see again after August. :beer: Now tell me to stop whining and gtfo.
I think you are being nuts. If you don't want to go, thank her for the invite and say you are not able to to attend.
I AM being nuts. It's DH's fault. He's pushing her on me like we are going to be lovers for lyfe. I just feel bad for blowing her off for a 3rd time in a row. And DH and her DH all in cahoots....Yes. I am being nuts. :-(
Post by melindafelinda on Aug 8, 2012 12:56:02 GMT -5
Just say no thank you and force yourself to stop thinking about it. If you feel terrible send her a short note in a few days thanking her for inviting you but letting her know you are shy and feel uncomfortable in groups. That way she feels sympathetic instead of thinking you don't like her.
just go. if you hate it after an hour, bail with a sore throat or something. you're moving, so who cares if it makes a bad impression? and you MIGHT have fun. win-win, i say.
I think you are being nuts. If you don't want to go, thank her for the invite and say you are not able to to attend.
I AM being nuts. It's DH's fault. He's pushing her on me like we are going to be lovers for lyfe. I just feel bad for blowing her off for a 3rd time in a row. And DH and her DH all in cahoots....Yes. I am being nuts.
Ugh. I hate it when H tries to set me up with potential girlfriends. Just tell her you already have plans and tell your H to knock it the fuck off.
I see little point in trying to be friends with someone you'll never see again in a few weeks.