Post by dr.girlfriend on Feb 17, 2015 14:28:05 GMT -5
I think I'm *more* happy for him, because he was the "trailing spouse" who followed me when I moved for my job. He left a job he loved to take a series of jobs he disliked. Finally, eight years in, he took a substantial pay cut to get a job he actually really likes, and now they are realizing his worth and compensating him more appropriately. It's been a much longer, harder haul for him than for me, who pretty much liked my job all along and went from slightly-underpaid to equitably-paid in the past ten years.
Since I'm a government employee, I know I'm not getting any major bonuses or likely moving much further than I'm at now (and if it do, the increase in pay is relatively minimal for the promotion I could get). I worked to get the position I'm in now, and I hope to stay here a long time.
Because of that, I'm extremely happy when DH gets his bonus and promotions. He got one last year, and I was really proud of him.
DH and I are very competitive and make about the same amount, so no. otoh, I was very proud when he negotiated for a higher salary at his new job, because I know how hard that was for him. He isn't very good at self-promotion, so I was more proud of that as a personal accomplishment vs professional.
Post by mrsjuleshs on Feb 17, 2015 17:00:29 GMT -5
I'm extremely proud of his accomplishments. No matter what business he goes into, he gets promoted pretty quick. This time (he just quit O&G before rigs started getting stacked and is now pipe fitting) he got to skip apprentice school altogether and will be ready to try for his journeyman spot in 6 months.
I am an office manager so no real room for growth as this is our only office in the city. But it's flexible and family oriented.
His career was stalled for a long while so when he got a huge raise and promotion this year, I was so thrilled for him. I don't know if "proud" is the right word, but I was really excited for him and for us as a couple.
Post by momof2boys on Feb 17, 2015 20:45:02 GMT -5
Absolutely, I would be thrilled. I honestly don't care about my job, its become a paycheck that we need to survive and thats it. The more money my DH makes, the less I have to work so i'd be happy
I'm a bit competitive and feel more proud of my accomplishments than his. We have the same degree and I started working a few months after him for more money and made more for 5 years until he changed companies. He's been just a little bit ahead since but I got a great raise this year and am getting close to catching back up. Plus I worked way more overtime the past few years so my gross was much closer to his versus comparing straight salary.
DH is smarter than me, so I feel better about myself when I succeed in our field of work. I might want to make more than him because of the feminist in me, but I'm still very happy for him when he succeeds. I also take credit for finding him his new job that gave him the salary bump (and I made him apply).
I have way more airline miles than him... I do like that feeling (and like money they are "our" miles to spend).
I love love love my job. I will never make a ton of money or move up a latter. And forget bonuses. However, it's 32 hrs/wk and I get lots of breaks (public school employee). Once we have kids it'll be fanfreakingtastic. H works hard and I couldn't be prouder of his achievements. He will always be our breadwinner and that's ok. We're a team. His raises, promotions and bonuses only mean good things for our family.
Post by beachdweller on Feb 18, 2015 10:29:34 GMT -5
I'm super psyched anytime my DH has career success. He does the same for me. When I got a promotion last year to a VP title, he was more excited than I was!