Post by Kcthepouchh8r on Feb 26, 2015 9:50:51 GMT -5
Ok so I probably shouldn't type this out loud but what the heck. Warning abortion and special needs ahead...
So I was reading this article on yahoo of a couples decision to terminate their child with Down's syndrome. Gist of the story is older couple having their first child. They found out their baby had downs via genetic testing. At first they said they were going to continue the pregnancy but saw a couple out in public with a severely affected adult they were having to feed and ultimately aborted.
On one hand I'm glad stories like this are out there. It's an unbelievably difficult decision and both sides should be portrayed. I believe in a woman's right to make that choice and I can't say I necessarily judge it. To be quite honest I don't like it.
My H ate an undercooked pork chop last night and (surprise!) was up puking his guts out all night. He knew it was undercooked but ate it anyway and I am having a really hard time feeling sorry for him.
Post by justbecause on Feb 26, 2015 10:12:43 GMT -5
DH thinks that people who were born and die in the same area (within 50miles) is the saddest thing. I don't think that geography can necessarily mean that these people did not have a full life. I think he's being ridiculous.
This is definitely unpopular around here but I don't want to spend two nights away from my kids.
It's not for a romantic overnighter with H either. They're going OOT for a wedding and I can't travel.
I have no desire to do weekends away from my kids. We did four days once but it was an unexpected death where we found out at 3pm and were on a plane the next morning to prepare funeral/tie up loose ends.
DH thinks that people who were born and die in the same area (within 50miles) is the saddest thing. I don't think that geography can necessarily mean that these people did not have a full life. I think he's being ridiculous.
If "born and die" means they never once traveled away from home, then I agree with your H
Post by Kcthepouchh8r on Feb 26, 2015 10:16:44 GMT -5
I will say when the kids are school age we will do a yearly adults only vacation. I just don't like the idea of more than a night with preschoolers and under.
Post by amynumbers on Feb 26, 2015 10:17:00 GMT -5
Spin off of Scattered -- I don't think DH and I need to go away overnight to reconnect. We have sitter 3-4 times a month. Our kids goo to bed hours before we do. We have an abundance of kid free time.
I like different POVs, and occasionally arguing just for the hell of it. But Hav was downright obnoxious often times, and then hid behind the "Oh, I live in a small town with no diversity so I have no idea how to conceptualize that thing and will cling to dear life without apology for my bigoted beliefs."
DH thinks that people who were born and die in the same area (within 50miles) is the saddest thing. I don't think that geography can necessarily mean that these people did not have a full life. I think he's being ridiculous.
Your H is being redonkulous. My dad died like 3 miles away from the house he grew up in. He had a very full life and traveled to places I will probably never see.
Spin off of Scattered -- I don't think DH and I need to go away overnight to reconnect. We have sitter 3-4 times a month. Our kids goo to bed hours before we do. We have an abundance of kid free time.
We get one kid-free night every 4-6 weeks (my mom takes him overnight). Is it necessary to reconnect? No, but it sure is a nice perk of having Grandma live 25 minutes away.
Spin off of Scattered -- I don't think DH and I need to go away overnight to reconnect. We have sitter 3-4 times a month. Our kids goo to bed hours before we do. We have an abundance of kid free time.
yes. Though, right now we're not getting out that many times a month but that's partly baby, etc. I know that will pass.
DH thinks that people who were born and die in the same area (within 50miles) is the saddest thing. I don't think that geography can necessarily mean that these people did not have a full life. I think he's being ridiculous.
Your H is being redonkulous. My dad died like 3 miles away from the house he grew up in. He had a very full life and traveled to places I will probably never see.
I currently live 16 miles from where I grew up. But I've traveled and lived in other countries and states. Chances are high that I'll live here (at least part-time) when I'm old and gray. Does that make my life sad or pathetic?
Spin off of Scattered -- I don't think DH and I need to go away overnight to reconnect. We have sitter 3-4 times a month. Our kids goo to bed hours before we do. We have an abundance of kid free time.
I agree...but there's something about staying at a hotel, smuggling champagne into the hot tub and sleeping in.
Spin off of Scattered -- I don't think DH and I need to go away overnight to reconnect. We have sitter 3-4 times a month. Our kids goo to bed hours before we do. We have an abundance of kid free time.
I agree...but there's something about staying at a hotel, smuggling champagne into the hot tub and sleeping in.
So here is our issue -- on the rare occasion we do it, we usually end up going out hard core, and then you just have that restless, dehydrated, hangover sleep. Also, I get this weird "OMG we have to go pick you the kids RIGHT NOW" anxiety when I wake up.
I'm not anti-overnight because OMG you are leaving your poor baby or anything, I just like my kids there when i wake up in the morning.
I like different POVs, and occasionally arguing just for the hell of it. But Hav was downright obnoxious often times, and then hid behind the "Oh, I live in a small town with no diversity so I have no idea how to conceptualize that thing and will cling to dear life without apology for my bigoted beliefs."
It's messed up, because I'm sure we helped her a lot more than we realize. The optimist in me hopes she spreads some info/awareness/perspective to her corner of nowhere. Even just a little bit can be a catalyst for change.
That's why I love vacation w/ family or even sleeping at my parents occasionally. No rushing back for the baby sitter, we can stay out late and they'll take care of the kids. Then in the AM, we're all there and they still have grandparents to distract them! win win. If we had a guest room, I'd have my mom stay over all the time!
I agree...but there's something about staying at a hotel, smuggling champagne into the hot tub and sleeping in.
So here is our issue -- on the rare occasion we do it, we usually end up going out hard core, and then you just have that restless, dehydrated, hangover sleep. Also, I get this weird "OMG we have to go pick you the kids RIGHT NOW" anxiety when I wake up.
I'm not anti-overnight because OMG you are leaving your poor baby or anything, I just like my kids there when i wake up in the morning.
How old are you that you haven't learned to drink a big glass of water with every drink to avoid that? Disappointed in you!
I also am content to lay around for a few hours than rush to get my kids...so there's that.