It was almost non-existent in the first trimester. I was so incredibly fatigued that the just the idea of sex was a non-starter.
It's getting better, but I have not experienced the second trimester "hornies" that all my friends seem to have gotten. Maybe it's still coming. We're basically at once a week, or every week and a half at the outside.
Post by starburst604 on Feb 26, 2015 18:36:31 GMT -5
Sex...what is this sex you speak of?
First tri I felt like shit, second tri we did a few times but then I started really showing and he started feeling weird about it. At this point I don't want anyone near my vagina unless they are going to deliver this baby. Next up, my vagina could be torn to shreds and take forever to feel normal again. I'll practically be a virgin again.
Post by kellsbelles on Feb 26, 2015 18:44:28 GMT -5
I thought the constant sex when we were TTC was bad. Now its the complete opposite of the spectrum. I know my H thinks Im beautiful but he's just one of those guys like starburst604 who is a little weirded out about pregnant sex. I can relate I probably would be too if the situation was reversed. Im also not one of those pg women who feels super sexual and heightened arousal either like lots of girls report. Maybe our baby moon in a few weeks will take us back to the honeymoon stage
First tri I felt like shit, second tri we did a few times but then I started really showing and he started feeling weird about it. At this point I don't want anyone near my vagina unless they are going to deliver this baby. Next up, my vagina could be torn to shreds and take forever to feel normal again. I'll practically be a virgin again.
This makes me feel better. And worse. All at the same time. Lol.
First tri I felt like shit, second tri we did a few times but then I started really showing and he started feeling weird about it. At this point I don't want anyone near my vagina unless they are going to deliver this baby. Next up, my vagina could be torn to shreds and take forever to feel normal again. I'll practically be a virgin again.
This makes me feel better. And worse. All at the same time. Lol.
Not to mention that TTC had taken it's toll even before the pregnancy. Maybe it will make it all the more super special when it does happen again finally ? Ugh, I really do worry that it's ruined forever. I don't want to to be that way, we once had a great sex life.
I thought the constant sex when we were TTC was bad. Now its the complete opposite of the spectrum. I know my H thinks Im beautiful but he's just one of those guys like starburst604 who is a little weirded out about pregnant sex. I can relate I probably would be too if the situation was reversed. Im also not one of those pg women who feels super sexual and heightened arousal either like lots of girls report. Maybe our baby moon in a few weeks will take us back to the honeymoon stage
Fx for some babymoon sex! H suggested a babymoon but I was like 1) don't really want to spend the money 2) I don't want a sex-less vacation and 3) I REALLY don't wanna be in a bathing suit for quite some time.
First Tri was all exhaustion and not much sex, but 2nd tri until about 35 weeks was great. My H is very attracted to my pregnant body and he makes me feel beautiful, so we've been very well connected.
Since 35 weeks it's been pretty uncomfortable, so it's more like a long bath and very quick sex. At this point it's mostly to coax the baby out
This makes me feel better. And worse. All at the same time. Lol.
Not to mention that TTC had taken it's toll even before the pregnancy. Maybe it will make it all the more super special when it does happen again finally ? Ugh, I really do worry that it's ruined forever. I don't want to to be that way, we once had a great sex life.
No kidding. Ugh. It was almost a relief when we accepted the fact that sex was not going to end in pregnancy.
I've not really been in the mood but I am going to try to make more of an effort. I like it once we get into it, it's just the "starting" that has been an issue for me.
Post by cheeseandcrackers on Feb 26, 2015 19:14:56 GMT -5
It's awkward and i'm not a big fan of it right now. First and second trimester was fine. We still do it, but I pretty much go with it because I know once the baby is here it won't happen for a while lol.
Post by starburst604 on Feb 26, 2015 21:36:08 GMT -5
Ever since we started feeling her move my H hasn't been interested. He still compliments me all the time, and I do believe that he still finds me attractive, just not in that "OMG I wanna get you naked" way. More that "look at your cute pregnant self!" way. He's very into feeling her move, really invested in this whole thing, and super supportive and protective, so I guess I can forgive him that he's not viewing me in a sexual way right now.
It hasn't changed much yet. But I'm starting to feel less attractive now with all the bloat and the fact that I haven't been to the gym in a while. I'm sure it will start going down...
Post by brandienee on Feb 26, 2015 21:47:22 GMT -5
We're to maybe once a week. Maybe. First tri exhaustion and sickness does not a frisky wife make. Add that to the stress surrounding both of our work/school lives. Yeah. No sexy time here.
I kind of feel guilty, but I just DGAF right now. Saturday mornings are all I have energy for.
Post by dearprudence on Feb 26, 2015 21:47:24 GMT -5
My sex life always increases when I'm pregnant. We go from weekend only sex to almost every night. I'm lucky enough to having the most mind-shattering orgasms when pregnant. SO much better than when I'm not, so that helps the situation. On top of that, because of the increased blood flow and swelling, they come very quickly. Like if he accidentally bumps into me I'm almost good to go.
Honestly it has been great. It could be due to the fact that it is still a fairly new relationship too. Now that I am in the 2nd tri I am definitely horny all the time. It's bad because bf says he can't keep up. Haha
Our sex life has been crummy for a long time now. I don't think all the planned TTC sex helped it, either. I don't really have any interest. I know dh takes care of himself, no more or less than he did when we had a great sex life (ohhhh so long ago. Like, embarrassingly long ago.) I take care of myself too, when the mood strikes. I think we've done it twice, maybe 3 times since being pregnant. We talked about doing it this weekend, but we'll have to try something new. I told him there's no way I can handle him being on top of me, and I don't know how comfortable I'll be on top of him. Fun times.
FWIW, we are extremely affectionate, lots of hugs/kisses/cuddling. Maybe too much, that we're comfortable showing our love that way instead of in the bedroom.
Post by hainesherway on Feb 27, 2015 9:10:08 GMT -5
First tri I was so exhausted I didn't have much interest. It finally started coming back second tri, but after the A/S at around 20 weeks I was diagnosed with placenta previa and restricted from having intercourse or having orgasms. I've been helping DH out by doing other things though, lol! It just sucks because he can't reciprocate. Hopefully my placenta moves soon.
Lacking. Between his work travel and me being exhausted after work we haven't had much at all. We are going to Hawaii (kid free!) in a week and hopefully that will kick us back into gear.
Lacking. Between his work travel and me being exhausted after work we haven't had much at all. We are going to Hawaii (kid free!) in a week and hopefully that will kick us back into gear.
Ooh what islands are you going to? We are going to Hawaii in 12 weeks I am so excited!
Lacking. Between his work travel and me being exhausted after work we haven't had much at all. We are going to Hawaii (kid free!) in a week and hopefully that will kick us back into gear.
Ooh what islands are you going to? We are going to Hawaii in 12 weeks I am so excited!
We are going to the Hilton on the big island. Points and miles FTW!