Okay yes I realize it's been two dates, but I really this guy! He's nice, normal and funny. He takes time out of his day to remember me. He sends funny texts and makes it clear he thinks I'm pretty awesome.
This is...weird to me. It's seriously a little difficult to adjust to and believe that someone thinks I'm pretty cool. I don't have the highs with this one. Like when I get a text, I'm happy, but not like butterflies OMG OMG. And I think it's because I'm not sitting here wondering if he WILL text me you know? And then experiencing that excitement that he actually DID.
It's difficult for me to recognize that this seems to be more like a normal way to go about things. I'm really happy to see and hear from him and I our date on Saturday is something I look forward to. I remember with past guys I'd get a text form them and would literally be dancing around my house. But...I also didn't ever trust that I would get a text for them. It's okay I'm not like dancing around my house and jumping up and down about hearing from this guy right?
Thanks all! We're going to like a local version of a Dave & Busters. It was my suggestion. I thought something interactive sounds fun and I love me some skee ball! Plus there is booze and food so you can't go wrong!
I"m so happy for you! I agree that it's ok not for things to be "ZOMG jump on a couch". achase said it best when she described it as a slow burn. I've felt that way about the Dentist and its so much more sustainable and healthy.
Okay, Okay. I'm going to take it as it is. And agree this is normal and exciting!!!! For all of you who have been around you know this is kind of a big deal;)
Post by bullygirl979 on Feb 27, 2015 11:45:55 GMT -5
I'm happy for you, @pdx18! And yes, it is totally normal not to have the extreme emotions. The fact that you are happy to be in contact with him says something!
Post by redredwine on Feb 27, 2015 12:25:37 GMT -5
I LOVE this!!
you know, I think your dating hiatus and the focusing on @pdx18 only time really helped the most-you seem like you're in such a good place (even though things like your mom pop up now and then, but that's just life!) I think this is the way dating SHOULD be-easy peasy, even keel, and just not having to overanalyze things. Sounds like it's all of those things-I love it!!
Post by Wanderista on Feb 27, 2015 12:33:36 GMT -5
I think it sounds great. That's a lot like my relationship with BF. When I met him, I had similar disbelief because it felt different than what I'd experienced before. Calm, happy and enjoyable - kind of a relaxed type of chemistry rather than the Romeo & Juliet type. I am a lot happier and it feels more sustainable than the types of relationships I got into previously.
So yeah, sounds awesome and healthy. Definitely have fun!
Post by jojoandleo on Feb 27, 2015 14:21:08 GMT -5
I am so happy for you. I have come to recognize the butterflies as a bit of ANXIETY. Yes, they are excited anxiety, but still anxiety. I think it is GOOD he doesn't make you feel anxious.
We're singing the same song, sister. 2.5 months later and I still really dig this guy in a nice, calm, comforting way.
Raises hand. This is me 4 months in. Is a very good feeling but not the weird, uneasy feeling I felt with mg. It wasn't a sense of security; Id barely be able to breathe until I heard from him. Then Id see him, feel ok and start feeling anxious again as soon as he left. I could barely even function at work. No thanks!
Now I love how I feel. I feel excited to see J and I count down the days and hours before I see him. I never feel like I'm sick of him. But I also KNOW I'll hear from him and so there's no anxiety. It's a good thing I think!