Who wants to hear an update on my life?

[Bernadine]

(Hi, it's rak)

Xh is still in the house, I'm still paying for it. The house is a complete disaster (I stop by every few weeks when I know he's not going to be there to see if I have any mail). He hasn't mowed the lawn a single time this spring. I'm consumed with rage about it, but I'm fully planning on using it to my advantage in the final divorce settlement.

He keeps asking me out on dates, and I've taken to completely ignoring him. I'm sure he knows this makes me feel like a total douche, and he's probably hoping I'll feel douchey enough to give him another chance, but I won't.

Still dating here and there a bit. Kickball is over, but I joined a cornhole league with some people from the team. We start in June.

I got a part-time job waiting tables at a comedy club downtown. This should allow me to move downtown myself at the end of the summer. I'll have to live with roommates, which sucks, and money will be tight, but I really need to be out of my parents' house and on my own.

To sum up, I feel good about having a plan and still feeling like I'm moving in the right direction and making good decisions for myself.

[wrathofkuus]

Dude, seriously. Move back in with like 15 friends.

[pseudoagain]

What a doucheball. Ugh, sorry

But yay for you! I am so happy that you are moving on from this.

[lightbulbsun]

I'm sorry he's being such an ass, but good for you for ignoring him.

It sounds like you're working hard to get yourself to a better place, which is great. I hope you're able to find a nice apartment!

[alzi]

May 16, 2012 10:27:30 GMT -5 @booby said:

i'm counting down the days until the 12 months is up! good for you for moving on. you are doing all of the right things.
xo

right?? I think we are all counting down the days for you...

[Bernadine]

Oh, and I did mean to mention- this weekend makes 6 months of our mandatory one year separation. I'm halfway there!!!

[Deleted]

Sounds like you're doing everything right, hats off to you. :Y:

[eightangryreindeer]

Happy sixmonthsaversary, darlin.

Halfway there.

douchemancipation

[sugarplum]

Yay! for being halfway done. I completely HATE that law (I used to live where you are and had a friend go through a divorce).

I'm sorry he's being such an ass and but I'm glad things are looking up for you.

[Deleted]

May 16, 2012 10:26:06 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

To sum up, I feel good about having a plan and still feeling like I'm moving in the right direction and making good decisions for myself.

This makes me so happy. I'm really impressed with how you are navigating this--such a positive outlook and you are doing all the right things.

[deanlicker78]

Good plan, I hope the next 6 months go very quickly for you.

[hubes]

Six months is nothing, you cna do it!

[scotty]

Good for you! :Y:

[Bernadine]

If I move back in, our separation is null. We can't spend a single night together during the one year separation.

[gault]

You're doing SO well with this. I hope the next 6 months fly by for you.

[textbookcase]

I'm glad things are looking up for you, and I'm glad you're halfway to being done with the douche.

[julesf84]

I wish you all the best in the next 6 months!

[iamgrace]

I hate your ex. For real. I am glad you have a plan and that things are looking up. Try hard to ignore him and just get through the next few months.

[Bernadine]

You guys make me feel so good. I love you. :heart:

[peachykate]

This is all great news! I hope your lawyer roasts his stupid ass for what he is doing to that house.

[vajeana]

He is such a piece of fucking shit.

(man, i like that we can use foul language on here!)

[mrsjuleshs]

I'm glad things are going better for you. Hope the next 6 months fly by.

[cleo29]

I still don't get why he gets the house when he is not contributing to it. THat is correct, right?

I'm happy that you are happy and it sounds like you have a great plan.

[sprky79]

Please tell me you have cancelled all of the utilities in your name.

[revolution]

I am so happy for you!! YAY!! YAY!! You sound like you are in a good place right now and that makes me smile for you.

[jaylea]

You are kicking ass at this. I am so impressed you haven't been sucked into the drama he's trying to create. Good work, and happy six months!

[KKD]

You are getting there! I'm proud of you.

[angelaa73]

rak I am so proud of you