I mean. Unless this person was swinging their penis around whilst flipping their long hair and singing "I am woman hear me roar" and discussing their upcoming gender reassignment surgery how could you be sure of their gender identity and how that matched with their sex? br]
I know that when dd isn't tactful (what three yo is) it can catch me off guard. Sometimes I wind up saying something that I wish I had taken more time to find a better way to explain. I think "Everyone's voice is different. Some people have deep voices and some people don't" would have done the trick.
She was running by us. I did tell DS she was a woman and then we discussed it further in the van. Perhaps I am using the wrong terminolog. After she spoke and was running by then there were definite masculine characteristics such as visible pecs as her tank top moved while she ran.
I am assuming though that your son was basing his opinion on her voice and not her chest. I mean, I'm not saying she wasn't transgender, but maybe she just had small breasts. Or was a professional body builder. Or a breast cancer survivor.
I don't think you meant any harm by it, I just think this was one of those "simple is best" situations. I also dont think its wrong for you to tell your kid that some people are born one gender, but feel like they really are the other, I just think that "people come in all shapes and sizes" may have been a better lesson here (with a dash of "it may hurt someone's feelings to talk about their appearance in front of them, but if you have questions you cam always ask me later" like if he had said "whys that guy so fat/have only 1 leg/etc"
Also, as long as you weren't rude I'm sure she understands that kids are curious and mean no harm.
Post by Skyesthelimit1212 on Mar 23, 2015 9:44:16 GMT -5
I understand you felt bad that your lo said it out loud, but honestly don't beat yourself up about it. You didn't "yup, that's a man", you weren't disparaging of the woman. What do you think you could have done at that point, run up the the couple and apologize for your lo, and told them, don't worry I'll talk to her in the car. People know that kids don't have a filter.