Is this normal??

[brandienee]

Our spouse group has a FB page, that sporadically gets posted on. 

The Commander's Wife is the moderator and generally runs it along with the 573203.3497 emails we get about base and spouse club goings on a day. She doesn't post any group updates in the FB group, other than we should make sure our email, home address, birthday, children/pet names exc are in the spouse roster. (So she can spam our email inboxes, apparently)

She has recently taken to reposting birth announcements from the new mom's private page to ours, and adding "pilot language" like "Baby First Middle and Last Name has landed at Time of Birth, ready to be daddy's co-pilot" exc.  ^o) I don't know if she had permission, because I don't know her. But WTF? I am clutching my pearls over here because it feels like a huge PERSEC issue to me. And I will raise hell if she does this with our kid. Hell, I tell you! It's bad enough that they email everyone in the squad when someone is born. (yes, strangers I just pushed something out of my uterus I need you all to know why H will not be with you this week) 

Am I being a crazy pregnant lady, or would this bug you? 

[panicked]

That would bug me for sure. It's none of her business. I know my past frgs have done baby gifts/flowers for new parents, but that wasn't done publicly.

[maebyfunke]

Yeesh. She's acting extremely inappropriately if she's ripping it off of people's facebook pages without their permission, especially considering that she's the commander's wife.

The only reason our son's birth announcement went out to the squadron was because I had provided the information to the current commander's spouse myself. She was pretty PERSEC savvy, thank goodness.

[pennylane]

In my experience, whoever was putting that info out to the squadron or spouse group asked for permission first. If you are concerned about it, I'd just shoot her an email and ask her to kindly not post your details. And if she has an issue with that, she can kiss your lovely pregnant behind. She should utilize the facebook page though to get rid of the ridiculous amount of emails she's sending.

A few of the department heads at our last squadron were texting my husband for updates while I was in labor (granted I was in L&D for DAYS) and that annoyed me. I was like, just tell them you'll be back to work after paternity leave in 10 days and leave it at that.

[brandienee]

Mar 26, 2015 16:58:41 GMT -5 panicked said:

That would bug me for sure. It's none of her business. I know my past drugs have done baby gifts/flowers for new parents, but that wasn't done publicly.

They do set up a make a meal thing for new moms, but that goes through the email system and is usually set up before the big day. I am just super annoyed with my information being shared with random people. 

[brandienee]

Mar 26, 2015 17:43:40 GMT -5 pennylane said:

In my experience, whoever was putting that info out to the squadron or spouse group asked for permission first. If you are concerned about it, I'd just shoot her an email and ask her to kindly not post your details. And if she has an issue with that, she can kiss your lovely pregnant behind. She should utilize the facebook page though to get rid of the ridiculous amount of emails she's sending.

A few of the department heads at our last squadron were texting my husband for updates while I was in labor (granted I was in L&D for DAYS) and that annoyed me. I was like, just tell them you'll be back to work after paternity leave in 10 days and leave it at that.

I will admit that this group is in BEC territory for me. I am happy that they're there for people who need them, but I don't like being harassed into hosting things, and providing my personal info for whatever use. This was just another WTF moment for me. LOL. I get that his commander needs to know that H won't be available, but I don't like the whole email out to the entire squad, now this Facebook thing. I just can't. 

[meltoine]

Our command spouse posts birth announcements to the FB page with permission. She also sets up a meal train. I think it's nice, as long as permission is given. Without permission, massive invasion of privacy.

[amaristella]

I've seen it done. And the meal trains as well. As long as it's done with permission I think it's a neat idea.

[Deleted]

I would assume she was given permission to post the birth announcements (at least I hope she was!). Though it's a bad idea to post the baby's full name. I mean, sure she could just say "Carl and Susan welcomed baby Michael Robert today."

As for the "pilot speak" -- eh, I get its cutesy and annoying to some, but I honestly am not bothered by it (especially if the new mom or dad is in a flying unit).