What do/did you do if your normally predictable

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i was always a hardass and didn't pick her up evah after maybe 9 weeks.* if she fussed for more than X minutes (X varied with age), i soothed and patted and would silently and without making eye contact replace a pacifier. but that's it. mommy is mean. and she was a generally good sleeper so i was trying really hard not to get in the way of her instinct.



*obviously i'd have made an exception if she was really wound up, but i can count on one hand the number of times that happened.

[Nicole]

How long is she wanting to stay up after this 45 min nap? We followed her cues but as a result we did sleep training at 8mos like ferrero style.

[cleo29]

It could be that she wants to go to sleep a little later. I would try to soothe her and just leave her be unless she is crazy upset.

[melindafelinda]

Cute!

[Deleted]

MUST HUG BABY.

[peekay]

She's so cute! Before 5 months I just followed C's schedule. She sleeps through the night no prob now.

[pantsparty]

Aw, baby shades! She's so smiley!

[Deleted]

She's so cute! I love the sunglasses!

[cleo29]

Is she with your mom during the day? What is her schedule with her? Is she starting to teeth, that can impact sleep schedules too.

[meganew]

Oh my gah! She's so sweet! Ollie has little sunglasses but he rips them off immediately : (

I have no sleep advice- at almost a year we're still not sttn. I'd say for as young as she is, I'd still follow her schedule! But what the hell do I know.

[Deleted]

I'm usually a hard ass about everything else but if kid wants to be up that young, then yeah, I fish them out and attempt to make them happy.

[cleo29]

Aug 10, 2012 20:42:55 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Aug 10, 2012 20:39:11 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Is she with your mom during the day? What is her schedule with her? Is she starting to teeth, that can impact sleep schedules too.

She stays w/ my mom most of the time. Occasionally w/ H's parents. She was taking a pretty good morning nap and a 2 hour early afternoon nap w/ a catnap around 5, but for the past week, she hasn't been taking a good afternoon nap. We all keep suspecting that she is teething, but none of us can feel anything yet.

try elevating her crib and see if that helps. Lying flat can intensify the gum pain during teething and it is always horrible till the teeth break through. I am still waiting for tooth #3 with Miss K. ^o)

[Deleted]

She's so precious!!

I agree with elevating the crib for teething.

All of our night sleeping stuff was earlier on, so I think whatever tips I have are irrelevant at her age. I'll bet she's just getting more aware. We've had to shift to a 4hr schedule so the boys burn more energy during the day because of this.

I guess all in all I wouldn't worry too much but I wouldn't take her out of the room, personally. If she isn't hungry I'd try to soothe her in the dark in her room. I'd think she's starting to equate night with fun and staying up with mom and dad, which really isn't what you want in the long run.

[cleo29]

Aug 10, 2012 20:48:00 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Thanks, Cleo, I'll try that. Maybe it'll also keep her from inching her way across the crib until she is smushed into the opposite side and wimpering in her sleep. lol

lol We just put maybe one inch thick books under one end of the crib. It helps. teething is a bitch.

[Nicole]

Cleo has good advice. Also my kid loved that fisher price seahorse around her age. It lulled her to sleep.

[peekay]

Also at 4 months my baby totally freaked out about sleeping and was alllllll over the place. It went away after 2 weeks or so.

[Deleted]

Eh, I think good habits can never start too early. But I get what you mean.

Babies change so much, I've stopped stressing so much at their foibles, lol. In another few weeks she'll be sleeping all night but doing backflips in her crib or something!!

[cleo29]

Aug 10, 2012 20:56:48 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Aug 10, 2012 20:51:56 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

I guess all in all I wouldn't worry too much but I wouldn't take her out of the room, personally. If she isn't hungry I'd try to soothe her in the dark in her room. I'd think she's starting to equate night with fun and staying up with mom and dad, which really isn't what you want in the long run.

I did try to soothe her in her room tonight, but she still wanted to be awake. Yeah, I don't want her to start thinking it's going to be naptime for awhile and then up again, but I'm not sure if she's too young for that yet. She's asleep now.. I hope it stays that way.

Cleo -lol. Oh, I was thinking about bedrisers. We have a casters on our crib.. should I take them off?

You can try sticking the books under the mattress at one end or buy a mattress wedge they are not too pricey.

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We use folded blankets under their mattresses.

[hymen]

At 3-4 months I wouldn't worry about an actual "bedtime" too much. I mean, yeah, have a bedtime routine and put her down relatively the same time each night, but with teething and growth spurts and everything, the sleep patterns are going to be all over the place. I felt like we really didn't have a set bedtime until about 6 month, where we knew if we put him down at this time he would sleep for a good solid 5-6 hours or so.

[eddy]

Aug 10, 2012 20:59:38 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

We have the seahorse! But H has been using it as part of her morning wake up routine.

At this point, she still can't really go to sleep in her crib on her own. She'll fall asleep in her car seat or her RnP during the day, but I can't do the drowsy but awake thing with her at night.

She will get it. Just keep trying. You are doing great!

[hymen]

Does she take a pacifier? When Isaiah woke up like this either my H would lie with him on the couch and do the butt pat until he fell asleep, or I would nurse him back down (he never took to a pacifier - I was his). I don't necessarily think he was hungry, just needed that comfort. I know you're not nursing anymore, but maybe a pacifier to comfort suck would help, if she takes one?

[cleo29]

Aug 10, 2012 21:08:45 GMT -5 eddy said:

Aug 10, 2012 20:59:38 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

We have the seahorse! But H has been using it as part of her morning wake up routine.

At this point, she still can't really go to sleep in her crib on her own. She'll fall asleep in her car seat or her RnP during the day, but I can't do the drowsy but awake thing with her at night.

She will get it. Just keep trying. You are doing great!

I agree, she will figure out how to drift off to sleep. Right now I have started giving K little stuffed toys to hold (she find comfort in stroking the material). I can tell you, from experience, it is awful when a baby needs to be held/rocked to go to sleep. And a lot times the minute yo lean over to put them in the crib, they wake up and start crying.

Just keep exposing her to it and she will learn. You're doing a fantastic job.

[cleo29]

Aug 10, 2012 21:17:07 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

She falls asleep with a pacifier, and I always replace it as a first course of action when she wakes up during the night. It usually works, it's just this week she's been doing this nap for an hour and back up again thing.

She is still a really good sleeper for her age, so I'm not complaining. I just don't want to fuck up and foster bad habits since things are going so smoothly so far.

You are doing the right things and her sleep habit changes do sound like teething or growth spurt.

[hymen]

And when you stick the books under the mattress, only one or two thin ones are needed. We REALLY angled his mattress and the poor kid slid right down. Whoops.

[eddy]

Tamb I would say you aren't screwing it up. It sounds like she is hungry. There is still so much adjustment going on at this age. Don't worry if plans change. Before you know it she will adjust and not wake like that.

[hymen]

Aug 10, 2012 21:17:07 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

She falls asleep with a pacifier, and I always replace it as a first course of action when she wakes up during the night. It usually works, it's just this week she's been doing this nap for an hour and back up again thing.

She is still a really good sleeper for her age, so I'm not complaining. I just don't want to fuck up and foster bad habits since things are going so smoothly so far.

Isaiah was either nursed or held to sleep until he was over 10 months old. I was worried we would have a 4 year-old that needed to be rocked to sleep because he seemed so dependent on it. One night we decided to let him try to put himself to sleep in his crib. He cried for a few minutes and then was out and slept the best ever! We haven't looked back since. He goes to bed at 7:30 and wakes up at 6:30 (plus a three hour nap during the day). Every once in a while we have a crappy night where he is teething or he is sick, and we adjust for those circumstances, but get right back into the routine when it's over. He adjusts.

Basically what I am saying is one or two weeks of crappy sleep isn't going to eff your kid over sleep-wise.

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My son woke up 45 minutes after I put him down from about 4 months to ten months. I tried moving bedtime up, down, changed the bedtime routine, let him cry, it didn't matter. One day he just stopped. Wish I had better advice! It will pass.

[maggiemoo]

I'd probably do what you are doing in the short term. Then I would look at when she naps and try to slowly adjust those. It will work itself out. Then she'll start screwing with you again . It's a vicious cycle.