"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Oh, that suuuuuucks. I am so sorry. Your sister sounds terrible, and I kind of hate her. Your dad brings nothing to your table now - I hope he gets help. Hugs to you, though, for the rough stuff you're going through.
Post by dianecourt on Mar 27, 2015 14:25:48 GMT -5
I'm just so sorry. My brother sounds a lot like your dad. He's in recovery now (which is great), but it's still hard. So many little cuts add up to a whole lot over time.
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"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I don't know all of the backstory - but if mom is out of town why is she disowned too? Unless she is a crazy too, I completely understand that.
b/c she won't leave my alcoholic dad, so if cut him out, I cut her out b/c they're always together.
My family was similar. I'm very close with my mom and my dad and I have never gotten along, he got nastier when he started drinking but she wouldn't leave him.
It got to a point where I just ignore him, I'm polite like I would be to a stranger. We basically see each other on holidays and if he happens to be around when I visit. I call my mom on her cell phone, I don't talk to him on the phone around when I used to live nearby she came to visit at my house.
My family used to be SO touchy, the exchange you described could have happened on a regular day with my family. Passive aggressive comments everywhere. I started ignoring them and shrugging it off, I quit caring if anyone was mad at me because it was exhausting to dance around all the things that piss people off. Eventually everyone got a little less touchy. Dad had a liver transplant and has been sober but our relationship was over for so long, I don't care to fix it. It took a lot of therapy to get to where I am with it.
I really hate that they made you cry. I hope you're able to find a way to see your mom still. ((more hugs))