Are men programmed...

[callalily]

To NOT hear screaming children in the middle of the night?? Seriously?!? How the fuck did DH miss every.single.scream from our two molar cutting toddlers? Finally at 5am, I kicked him and told him if he didn't go get this one, I was going to cut him. I need a serious amount of coffee this morning.

[speckledfrog]

No. In fact, mine routinely get up with LO first thing in the morning. Sorry yours is being a douche.

[peekay]

Yuck. Sorry. My H is pretty good about this so you can tell your H that mine says to man up!

[mypunkinpie]

Not unless you let him.

[callalily]

Aug 11, 2012 7:20:35 GMT -5 mypunkinpie said:

Not unless you let him.

Ya. I probably should've kicked him earlier instead of just getting pissed. He's usually pretty good, last night he was just being a douche. I need to learn to have coffee first, then rant after coffee and can see clearer.

[speckledfrog]

Everything definitely seems worse when you are tired.

[eddy]

I always have to wake my husband for this stuff. He would sleep through anything if I didn't kick him in the night and say " your turn."

[missmaddie]

Aug 11, 2012 9:41:42 GMT -5 eddy said:

I always have to wake my husband for this stuff. He would sleep through anything if I didn't kick him in the night and say " your turn."

This...though then I lay there awake anyhow while he tends to DS. He hears him first thing in the morning before I do, yet he will be sound asleep at night while I sleep really really lightly in anticipation of DS waking.

[sewf]

I'm always going to have to kick H to get him up. He has hearing aids, so he takes them out at night. I anticipate him having some bruised shins.

[Deleted]

My ex pretended to not hear E in the middle of night all the time. It sucks. I'm sorry.

[revolution]

Aug 11, 2012 9:41:42 GMT -5 eddy said:

I always have to wake my husband for this stuff. He would sleep through anything if I didn't kick him in the night and say " your turn."

This is us too. DH admits he just doesn't hear them. He will remind me that I need to just get him up and he will take his turn.

[EmilieMadison]

Sorry about that. But to answer your question, no, they're not programmed. My DH often got up more than I did when the kids cried at night (after they were weaned, that is, otherwise what could he have done lol!)

[Jermys]

H gets up with the kids all the time. He does the whole morning routine with Freddie and he did with Edith too.

One time when Edith was a baby, H woke up and nudged me (he had to work in the morning)...he said I patted my chest a couple of times like I was burping her, rolled over and started snoring. So he laughed and went to feed her. He's super easy going.

[statlerwaldorf]

I am a heavier sleeper than DH. He got up with DD this morning and I never even woke up.

[Deleted]

oh my god, i don't get this at all. my husband never heard and still doesn't hear L in the middle of the night. on the other hand, i never hear catballs yowling at 2am, which she does almost daily. and he gets up with her every weekend morning so i can often sleep in. so i guess i'll keep him anyway.

[maggiemoo]

I have issues falling asleep, but once I do i'm dead to the word. DS 1 just wakes up and gets on my side of the bed. DS2's monitor is on H's side of the bed. He's a daddy's boy. When I get him and H is home, DS2 gets pissed. H deals with it most of the time. My guilt level is low.

[macmars45]

My sister says her H doesn't hear any kind of screaming. I personally think he's lazy and will let her take care of it unless she specifically asks him for help. By 'it' I mean any screaming, tantrum throwing, upset children no matter the time of day. One time BIL specifically mentioned to H and me how night time screaming is my sister's problem. I gave him a death stare and walked away.

H and I have had many conversations of how that will not fly when we have kids unless he wants a pissed off wife. We both are disgusted with how BIL lets my sister just take care of everything though. It makes me want to punch him at times.

[daisyheadmaizie]

My DH never heard DD when she was baby. In fact, one night he slept in her room to give me break, and I climbed over his sleeping self when she was crying. If I wake him, he happily gets up, but once he is asleep a freight train traveling over his head wouldn't wake him.

[Deleted]

Jake seriously is JUST NOW getting to the "I hear, I wake, I activate" stuff I have been doing for the past 4 months.

I do think for some men it's a more difficult parenting thing to come into. And I think some never do -- or, rather, the woman is always more prone to hearing and acting sooner.

[Deleted]

I dunno. My h didn't really hear her for the first 6 months, and she was in our room. For some reason when we moved her across the hall he started waking up at night to bring her to our room. Now he just does it automatically. Half of the time I don't even wake up. Lol. I'm like the man in this situation.