I don't think it's weird, but DH does, so settle this.
One of of my best friends from high school is turning forty tomorrow. Unfortunately, we've lost touch over the last few years; I can't find her on the Internet and she's not on FB. I am FB friends with her younger brother (who I knew well in HS), but he's not active (his last post was in October). I sent him a message asking for my friend's contact info last week, but haven't heard from him. He's a real estate agent and I found his work phone and email pretty easily. I want to call him at work and ask about my friend. DH thinks that's bordering on stalking. I think that's perfectly fine. WDYT?
Really? Why is that weird? I want to get in touch with an old friend and the only person I can find is her brother. I'm not a total random or anything.
Post by sofamonkey on Mar 30, 2015 22:55:27 GMT -5
Seriously though. What are you hoping to gain here? It seems like a lot of effort, so maybe it would be easier to understand if you told us your reasoning/goals?
I kind of go by if you have to FB message them then OK, if you try and find their contact info online then OK, if you FB a mutual contact still OK but pushing a bit, if you have to google a "mutual" person to contact them to contact the original person then your really pushing the boundaries. But that's just me.
Yeah, it's one thing to search for him on Facebook, but if you call his work and stuff, he'll be all like "Wtf, where'd she get this number? How does she know I work here?"
I feel like my whole world just tilted that you guys think that's so stalkerish! How else should I get in touch with her? Send one FB message that he may or may not have seen and then just be like "oh well"? I didn't dig up his work contact info; he self-promotes on the Internet and has made himself easy to find. We ARE FB friends. What the fuck is the point of FB if I can't call one of my friends? Does no one talk on the phone anymore? Do I need to re-evaluate myself?
Yeah, it's one thing to search for him on Facebook, but if you call his work and stuff, he'll be all like "Wtf, where'd she get this number? How does she know I work here?"
Totally weird.
We've been FB friends for years. His work info and website are on his page. If you google him and his city, he's the first hit. He's a real estate agent; he wants people to find him.
I feel like my whole world just tilted that you guys think that's so stalkerish! How else should I get in touch with her? Send one FB message that he may or may not have seen and then just be like "oh well"? I didn't dig up his work contact info; he self-promotes on the Internet and has made himself easy to find. We ARE FB friends. What the fuck is the point of FB if I can't call one of my friends? Does no one talk on the phone anymore? Do I need to re-evaluate myself?
I mean...he's not REALLY your friend though. He's a Facebook friend. It's not like you guys are chatting on the phone on the reg.
Yeah, it's one thing to search for him on Facebook, but if you call his work and stuff, he'll be all like "Wtf, where'd she get this number? How does she know I work here?"
Totally weird.
We've been FB friends for years. His work info and website are on his page. If you google him and his city, he's the first hit. He's a real estate agent; he wants people to find him.
Yeah, to buy houses. Not contact his sister who you've not been in touch for several years.
Are you friends with the brother? Not FB friends, more like real life friends?
Post by dianecourt on Mar 30, 2015 23:13:57 GMT -5
If it really is so important to you, could you consider snail mailing a card to her "in care of". To her parents/brother/her old address. Not to work. Eh, even this sounds like a bad idea.
Seriously though. What are you hoping to gain here? It seems like a lot of effort, so maybe it would be easier to understand if you told us your reasoning/goals?
She and I were best friends for many years. We've lived in different states for twenty years and so we've naturally drifted apart. The last time we chatted was probably two years ago. I used to have her phone number, but it was lost when I dropped my phone in nacho cheese (don't ask). We used to call each other every year on our birthdays, but that dropped off, too. She turns forty tomorrow and I really just wanted to tell her "happy birthday, my old friend! Hope you're well and I miss you!" I think she'd like to hear from me.