If you were to have a disagreement

[jag01]

When I get into a disagreement I tend to be an introvert, I tend to need sometime to think about things and calm down. DH on the other hand is an extrovert, he wants to hash everything out right then and there. Our difference in styles drive each other crazy.
How do things work in your relationship? I'm curious how things work if you both are introverts or both extroverts. 

[andrewsgal]

Switch the two and you have DH and I. Honestly I know I have to give him time. I tell him what upset me and tell him we will talk about it later. On the other hand he also gives in sometimes and knows I just need to hash stuff out right then. It's a lot of compromise.

[gennyu]

This is me and DH in a nutshell. It drives me crazy! Sorry, I have no advice but am curious to read other responses.

[cabbagecabbage]

We're the opposite. I need to say everything I'm feeling amd then find a solution. He needs to sulk and shut down.

[ashb62]

DH and I are exactly the same. I need time and he wants to talk it out right.this.very.minute. Drives us both nuts.

[jag01]

Mar 31, 2015 17:48:18 GMT -5 cabbagecabbage said:

We're the opposite. I need to say everything I'm feeling amd then find a solution. He needs to sulk and shut down.

Are you the opposite or are you the same just the roles are reversed? 

[cabbagecabbage]

Rolls reversed. I can see that didn't make total sense. I'm the one who needs it resolved now.

[bakerlady89]

DH and I are both introverts.

[melew]

I need immediate resolution. DH would just let the problems fester for an eternity, as he buried how he felt deeper and deeper inside. He doesn't like conflict and let's things go pretty easily as to not create conflict. I would rather be upfront about my feelings and tend to be a more emotional person.

[zbeesma86]

I shut down and he he wants to talk the night away.

There have been times where I may start to talk & he'll just be an even bigger douche then I shut down for good.

Sometimes it's hard NOT to reply to his lame comments though hahaha.

So I'm a mix --I shut down but like to have the last word!

[Kcthepouchh8r]

Mar 31, 2015 17:48:18 GMT -5 cabbagecabbage said:

We're the opposite. I need to say everything I'm feeling amd then find a solution. He needs to sulk and shut down.

So this.

Though I have to say I dated an extrovert and we would have these ridiculously long fights where we both needed to have the last word so the grass isn't greener at all.

[jag01]

Mar 31, 2015 17:57:32 GMT -5 bakerlady89 said:

DH and I are both introverts.

This is very interesting to me. When there is an issue, do you both just sweep it under the rug or do you both talk it out when your calm and ready? 

[quesyrah]

We're the same way. We know how the other operates so when we're arguing and DH can tell I'm holding it back we drop it and he says he's willing to hear me when I'm ready. When I am ready to talk we're both pretty good about just listening to each other.

[bakerlady89]

Apr 1, 2015 8:17:56 GMT -5 jag01 said:

Mar 31, 2015 17:57:32 GMT -5 bakerlady89 said:

DH and I are both introverts.

This is very interesting to me. When there is an issue, do you both just sweep it under the rug or do you both talk it out when your calm and ready? 

It's definitely not ideal. How we handle it depends on the type of argument. Most things though get swept under the rug.

[jnksmom]

H and I are the opposite. I need to talk about it now and he needs time and sometimes doesn't want to discuss it at all which drives me crazy. Most of the time we wait and discuss it later but sometimes I have to hash it out immediately and he gives in. Occasionally I let it go completely if it wasn't something that big or important.

[excited30]

I would like to talk things out until they are settled..but don't push and push and push, I just cannot sleep in the bed until it's settled

He on the other hand end the 'discussion' and goes to bed early to shut down and not deal with it.

Things rarely got dealt with... he was content to just not deal with them