started marriage counseling

[lovelovelove]

Finally, 3 months after the implosion!

It was just the initial appointment to give background and see if it was a good fit. We left feeling like she can help, and she said she thinks her experience will be beneficial to us. She also has extensive experience in grief counseling, which will be a great thing for my H bc he's dealt with (or not) the death of his mom by drinking excessively.

She's concerned about our insurance coverage, so I need to check on that before moving forward.

On the way there my H said he was not looking forward to going bc he thinks it's just going to be us going over and over all the ways he screwed up and he's ready to move on from that. I told him the events need to be addressed so that we can move on- I'm never going to move on with this stuff eating at me.

I think the first few sessions are going to suck, but I'm hoping with everything I've got left that in the end it works. I was scared right before bc I wrote out all the things I need to cover, and at the end I was feeling so broken and like the list was insurmountable. But going to the appointment gave me a glimmer of hope.

I'll keep you all posted

[phoenixrising]

I have not been in marriage counseling, but I have found that being in solo counseling has been one of the best (but hardest) things I have done for myself. I hope that you get from it everything you need. XO

[malibu]

I'm so glad you went. Good for you being proactive and writing out the list - it may look insurmountable but hopefully you have everything you need to touch on and work on to be able to move forward. I hope he's cooperative.