"Oh she's such a good eater and she's not obese!"

[cleo29]

That's right folks, a comment my MIL made. And I have to say, by saying "not obese" does that mean she thinks she is chubby? Or is she shocked that even though she watches more than a half hour of tv many days, she is not fat?

I have to tell you, both h and I feel that this will be there last visit out there for a while. They do not do anything with the kids or at least very little. She had to watch her while H and FIL ran out to the store yesterday and she sat down and started reading her book. Even FIL made a comment "Well, you're not really watching her if you're reading." Listen, I am not expecting them babysit our kid the entire time, but take some fucking interest in her. Talk with her, do a puzzle, color a picture, take her for a walk (MIL & FIL are big walkers), just do something or I am not going to waste valuable vacation time visiting your asses.

I am so disappointed and angry.

And, SIL has had her oldest working/reading his third math book this summer, before school starts. WHY??? So you can then bitch the teacher out because your son does not want to do work that he already learned over the summer?

Lastly, I clipped a bird with my car today.

[flex]

Jebus.

I'm so sorry, Cleo.

I think you and your H have made a wise choice.

[cleo29]

I know that all grandparents are different, but I am not going to go through the hassle of traveling with young kids if this is how it's going to be. If they want to see her, they are always welcome in our home.

But, if I hear from them about missing us or anything like that, i am going to have to say something. Don't tell me that and then not take advantage of visits with her.

Oh and tonight at dinner C asked her cousin R, who is four, to take a bubble bath with her. She does this with my sister's boys who are older and loves it and they are sweet enough to indulge her. SIL responded with "A and R take showers now." Thanks a lot, buzz kill!

[cleo29]

Aug 11, 2012 20:56:29 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Sorry you had a bad visit.

Oh no, I'm not out there. Only H and C made the trip since K is not a great traveler right now.

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I hate your in-laws. Sorry about the bird. I always feel terrible forever after something like that.

[speckledfrog]

This would be a great time for aance's WTF face. Because WTF indeed.

[bab]

They sound awful. Just miserable. I'm sorry you had a bad visit.

[cleo29]

Aug 11, 2012 20:58:04 GMT -5 @bostonjen said:

I hate your in-laws. Sorry about the bird. I always feel terrible forever after something like that.

I hit a squirrel once and let me tell you, they don't die instantly. I saw him twitching in my rear view mirror. Then days later I hit a raccoon (who did survive). It was a bad time for me and wildlife.

[mkesweetie]

I feel even worse for you since you're not there. It's got to be hard knowing things aren't going well and there's nothing you can do.

I'm sorry Cleo. Sounds like you guys have made the right decision for future visits.

[cleo29]

Aug 11, 2012 21:03:28 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Aug 11, 2012 20:58:03 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Oh no, I'm not out there. Only H and C made the trip since K is not a great traveler right now.

Oh that's right, I do remember you saying that they were making the trip alone. Your MIL sounds like a fun grandma... not.

lol I know. It's odd because it's like she has to warm up to her at first, MIL, not C.

C is having fun though. She played a ton with her cousins, but when she is tired and done at the end of the day she tells H she wants to go home.

[peekay]

I HATE weight comments about little ones. that sounds infuriating!

[cleo29]

When she was 6 months old, she made the comment "Wow, look at that belly!" (and not in a good way) and we said "why, is that bad?" (completely bewildered) and she said "Yes!"

Here is the fatty's picture:

[peekay]

Omg, as if. She is perfect!! My girl was way bigger than that at 6 months and I would have throat punched anyone who told me that she was anything but healthy.

[speckledfrog]

cleo, she's awful.

That is an adorable baby and her stomach is not even that big! It's amazing her children made it out alive.

[snipsnsnails]

Is she the one who is a pediatrician? Was that your MIL or am I remembering something different?

[flex]

Aug 11, 2012 21:18:42 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

When she was 6 months old, she made the comment "Wow, look at that belly!" (and not in a good way) and we said "why, is that bad?" (completely bewildered) and she said "Yes!"

Here is the fatty's picture:

Good grief! What a weird thing to say! She was a BABY! And a perfectly beautiful one at that!

[cleo29]

Thank goodness she can't see K in person, she might die from shock.

And thank you, everyone, you guys are so sweet not only with the compliments but also listening to me vent.