School Aged Multiples

[josieposy]

My kids are not quite there, but I don't plan to make that request. They've been in different pre-school classes before with no problems. If the school puts them together, that's fine, but I won't specifically ask for it.

[marissa]

We kept our twins together for pre-k through 1 and separated in 2nd on the advice of their teacher. She is a twin and felt one of the boys was relying too much on the other. We're going to ask to have them back together for 4th and beyond because they do teams in the upper grades and I want to keep track of one team's homework, etc.

[Narwhal]

I teach kinder and have had twins together and separated. It really depends on the kids. If one is outgoing and "talks" for the other, it may be good to have the quiet twin have the chance to shine on their own, but also, kinder is a scary new experience so it may be a comfort for both to be together.
I think I'll keep mine together until 2nd-ish, but I'll make the call when we get there.

[origami]

I haven't decided what I'll do for K. I havenot even decided if I'll repeat PreK or put them in K. (Their birthdays are a week after the cutoff but I can get some leniency.) they are in the same class now but I see pros and cons.

[Deleted]

Together for K-2 and I want them to be together next year. They have thrived.

[jd15]

I think it really depends on their dynamic.

we chose to seperate my girls (fraternal) this year for K. M is more outgoing and often spoke for A (who was speech delayed). the transition was a bit tough at first (but then mine never did great with transitions even together)...but it was definitely the right decision for us. A has learned to speak up for herself and handle her own organization and such and M has been able to step back and only worry about herself. they walk in together every day and their classrooms are across the hall. they also have recess twice/day together, so they get to check in.

[Deleted]

My girls are only 13 mos so we aren't there yet but I'll definitely request they be together if I feel that's what is best for them. I really think this is kid dependent though and you have to do what I best for your kids.

[macchiatto]

Mine are together in Kinder and it's been going really well. I love that their teacher is an ID twin and understands twin dynamics well. They are at separate tables and have their own groups of friends. Now that they've adjusted to elementary school and they are comfortable either way, we'll probably separate them for 1st and see how that goes, but we'll take it year by year. Their K teacher said we could honestly go either way for 1st.

[quickstepstar]

Mine are separated and it has been really good for them to have their own groups of fiends.

[Deleted]

My boys will be together for third grade. Their second grade teacher absolutely agrees. I am thrilled. Making their own friends and such is not something I feel the need to promote. They are happiest together and thrive.

[breezy8407]

My two got separated this fall when they started preschool at their Montessori center. It was recommended to us by their toddler room teacher. They were dependent on each other and were acting out/fighting with each other. DD is very bossy and would boss DS around and generally be occupied by each other instead of doing things independently.

They are in different classrooms and will be in the same class with the same teacher until they go to kindergarten. I am sure I will keep them separated when they start K.

[katb]

My identical girls were together preschool through kindergarten. First grade they separated, and did ok. Second grade I homeschooled and they were together in our coop. Third and Fourth they have been seperated somewhat. I say that because although they are in different homerooms, the classes differentiate for math/reading/writing and they are in the same math and reading class.
It is so hard to have a simple, standard rule. You really need to follow what your gut tells you. Listen to what the teachers recommend (and why) and go from there. I have one independent and one that tends to be a follower. Being by herself at times, allows my follower to express some opinions and the independent one gets some feedback from other children. Also realize that situations and children can change. So be open to it changing year by year, class by class.