How's everyone doing?

[phoenixrising]

I thought I would just post a thread inviting everyone to let us know how you are doing. And if there is anyone who is lurking here and hesitant to chime in, this can also be an invitation to jump on in to the conversation! 

[lovelovelove]

How are you doing?

I'm feeling pretty good. Finally pulling out of the funk and enjoying doing things and being productive. We have our 2nd marriage counseling tomorrow, so I'm looking forward to that. H goes to meetings 3-4 times a week so he's in a good place. I'm starting to get more comfortable with him again finally, so hopefully we can start enjoying each other again soon

[flex]

Doing fine. Work has kept me so busy and frankly I'm a wee bit tired of all the responsibility. But it's not insurmountable and this too shall pass. lol

Kids and granddaughter are doing great. They all came over to my house for Easter dinner. It'll be our last family GTG at the house as I'm putting it up for sale in early May. Woot!

[phoenixrising]

Sorry I posted and ran, but I am in class right now, and our break was over.

I am doing okay. I had therapy today and had a nice, cathartic cry. I have been working through some stuff with my therapist that is pretty emotional, but I am happy that I am no longer completely numb to everything all the time...or engaging in numbing behaviors.

My PCP prescribed to me a medication that the FDA recently approved for Binge Eating Disorder, and although I am not yet up to the recommended dose for efficacy, I feel like I am seeing a difference. I am hopeful that will help me control some of my ED symptoms and give me space to work on some the reasons behind it.

[btay]

I am doing really well. stbxh and I met with a mortgage guy last week and confirmed that he will be able to buy me out of our mortgage so I've started looking at houses to buy since I should walk away with enough cash to have a decent down payment. I'm going to live alone for the first time ever and I can't wait. We are still getting along really well and it seems like we have really transitioned into a solid friendship now.

[mel]

I'm up and down. Some days are better than others. I'm super grateful for my therapist. I'm still trying to decide what to do about the psychiatrist but I'm leaning towards just dealing with it. I give no thought to it when I have a medical illness and need medications to get better so I should do the same with the psychiatrist and just get over the fact that people will see me there.

April is a really tough month for me but I seem to be hanging on okay so far. Today is the first day of april that I've been by myself for though so we will see what happens.

[malibu]

I'm doing pretty well. I'm working on my food issues, and I've lost 34 pounds. H is getting more comfortable in his new job and his moods have improved greatly, although I'm dealing with the fact he doesn't do much to help out at home. I'm waiting to broach that subject a little longer.

We went on a very last minute trip to Florida a few weeks ago, courtesy of my ILs. It was a wonderful break, one I desperately needed.

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Doing great. I've been traveling a lot, so haven't checked in as much as I should! Glad to read everyone's updates.

[phoenixrising]

I am heading out of town for my sister's bachelorette party this weekend. I am not the best traveler, but we have made it through security and are at the gate, so I am calmer already.

I have a job interview Monday that I could use good vibes for if you have any to spare!

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Apr 8, 2015 22:27:19 GMT -5 btay said:

I am doing really well. stbxh and I met with a mortgage guy last week and confirmed that he will be able to buy me out of our mortgage so I've started looking at houses to buy since I should walk away with enough cash to have a decent down payment. I'm going to live alone for the first time ever and I can't wait. We are still getting along really well and it seems like we have really transitioned into a solid friendship now.

Congratulations. I'm happy that things are going so smoothly!

[btay]

Apr 9, 2015 10:35:11 GMT -5 malibu said:

I'm doing pretty well. I'm working on my food issues, and I've lost 34 pounds. H is getting more comfortable in his new job and his moods have improved greatly, although I'm dealing with the fact he doesn't do much to help out at home. I'm waiting to broach that subject a little longer.

We went on a very last minute trip to Florida a few weeks ago, courtesy of my ILs. It was a wonderful break, one I desperately needed.

 congrats on the weight loss!

[btay]

Apr 10, 2015 10:12:14 GMT -5 phoenixrising said:

I am heading out of town for my sister's bachelorette party this weekend. I am not the best traveler, but we have made it through security and are at the gate, so I am calmer already.

I have a job interview Monday that I could use good vibes for if you have any to spare!

 Good luck!

[sigir]

I am doing ok, much better than I had been. I go see that awful psych for med mgmt in a week and want to increase my effexor as he only has me on 25 MG w no ramp up. I used to be on 125. I feel less suicidal but the thoughts are still there.

He also gave me lorazepam for anxiety and it's a little dangerous bc I could see myself abusing it potentially. I spoke to him about it and he said he was not concerned, but I have been using it sparingly just in case.

Flog me bc I have still not been to a meeting!

[sigir]

PS congrats on that awesome weight loss malibu, what an accomplishment! And good luck phoenix, own that interview monday!

[lovelovelove]

Apr 10, 2015 16:17:18 GMT -5 sigir said:

I am doing ok, much better than I had been. I go see that awful psych for med mgmt in a week and want to increase my effexor as he only has me on 25 MG w no ramp up. I used to be on 125. I feel less suicidal but the thoughts are still there.

He also gave me lorazepam for anxiety and it's a little dangerous bc I could see myself abusing it potentially. I spoke to him about it and he said he was not concerned, but I have been using it sparingly just in case.

Flog me bc I have still not been to a meeting!

I liked this bc you said you were doing better- awesome!

Sorry you're not comfortable with your dr. Are you looking in to switching? Sorry if youve mentioned this, I'm having trouble remembering. It's so nice to have someone who is easy to work with for this stuff, I hope you're able to find that. But in any case, it's great no matter what that you're taking care of yourself getting the medication you need.

[lovelovelove]

Apr 10, 2015 10:12:14 GMT -5 phoenixrising said:

I am heading out of town for my sister's bachelorette party this weekend. I am not the best traveler, but we have made it through security and are at the gate, so I am calmer already.

I have a job interview Monday that I could use good vibes for if you have any to spare!

Good luck with the interview!

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Apr 12, 2015 10:40:40 GMT -5 lilmissladybug said:

We sold our house after 24hrs on the market, last month. We close on the 20th. I'm so overwhelmed with how much crap we have. DH hasn't helped me pack one thing and I'm feeling very angry towards him. We're moving in with my parents for a month until we can move into our new place. I have so much anxiety around this move.

I'm trying to focus on ED recovery and over the last couple weeks I have connected so many things to my behaviors. It scared the crap out of me to see the connections and the panic attacks it was causing; so instead of quitting and running away from the uncomfortable feelings I reached out to my team and opened up for the first time ever about the issues related to my ED. Now I'm trying to deal with the guilt about opening up. Growing up we kept our feelings to ourselves. Everything was hush hush and kept quiet.

Big hugs to you for getting your feelings out! It's hard. I was raised that way too.  But you never know who will relate to what you are feeling and perhaps lend an ear.  Proud of you.

Your move sounds overwhelming!  Actually two moves, right?  Hope living with your parents goes well.  Will that be an okay situation?  Congratulations on selling your home so quickly!  Yikes.

[phoenixrising]

I also was raised in an environment where it was NOT okay to feel your emotions, and I never really had a safe place to go with difficult emotions until I met my therapist. My parents are not that, and my XH was not either. And it's really only been in then last 2-3 months (after three years with the same therapist) that I have started doing that. So I cry in therapy all the time. My ED definitely developed as a way to manage emotions, and treatment for it scares the shit out of me because feeling my emotions is just scary and seems very unsafe to me. But I am working on it.

Glad to hear that you opened up. That is a very scary and brave thing to do. I also attend an ED group for adults and opened up to them a couple of weeks ago about how much I was struggling and was TERRIFIED. But they were awesome.

Big hugs to you!