dealing with guilt

[sigir]

How do you deal with the guilt you feel about the things you may have done when you were drinking or otherwise using?

Most of the time it does not bother me, but the kids are asleep and I am alone tonight and it's getting to me. I should be relaxing and enjoying an evening to myself but I am full of anxiety.

I know this board is quiet so I may not hear back tonight and that's ok, but I am wondering how you all deal w guilt when it comes on strong?

[lovelovelove]

I'm sorry you're struggling tonight. Just wanted to send some good thoughts your way.

For the anxiety, when it gets out of control for me I do the most distracting, mindless thing I can- trashy romance novel, real housewives, organize my closet, etc. I guess that doesn't deal with anything, sorry. I sort of save that stuff up for therapy

[mel]

I'm sorry that you are struggling tonight. Hugs!

When my anxiety gets out of control I typically try to exercise or read a book. Journaling really helps me too. It's like once I get my thoughts down on paper then I can get them out of my head. When it's really bad I do use medication to help.

I hope you are able to find some peace and enjoy your evening.

[flex]

I had "mom guilt" for several years after I sobered up. Over the years I learned to "...neither regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." What I did I have learned from and as long as I stay sober, I will never repeat my actions.

Plus I talk to my sponsor and work the Steps if necessary.

[sigir]

Thanks everybody, I guess this is a time when a sponsor would really be the way to go bc they have BTDT when dealing w guilt over specific things you have done.