Is your kid more affectionate towards one parent

[hubes]

Just a phase. Maybe talk about hurting daddy's feelings?

[idoinjuly]

I think it's just a phase. DD was like this with DH for a few weeks and it really started to bother him. Like yours, she only wanted to play with him, but nothing else. Over the past few days, she's warmed up to him again and lets him do things for her and she'll walk over and sit in his lap and stuff.

[eb777888]

This definitely goes back and forth for us, sometimes it's me, sometimes it's him. It's usually him since I SAH-
He totally takes me for granted because I'm always there. When he favors H (like he has been) it doesn't really bother me. I know he loves me and it makes H feel good.

[gretchenindisguise]

L typically goes for whomever she was just with the most. Often that's me because we have more face time, but other times it's H.

[cleo29]

C sometimes does this. What has helped is her being with him more without me around. Most nights I "leave" the house and H is on bedtime duty.

We had to start this when I was pregnant with K because C was becoming too clingy to me and really helped a lot.

[gretchenindisguise]

Oh and L also has this thing where I think she thinks she can only like one parent. So she'll say "I love you mommy!" but can't also say "I love you daddy" at the same time. It's weird.

We make a point to show her that we can love her and love one another too.

[Deleted]

Well, mine is only 14 months. But he has given me hugs and kisses for awhile now and he only recently started doing this with H also. He cuddles with me a lot more than he does with H.

I came home yesterday from being out of town for a few days and I noticed that he has become much more affectionate with H over the weekend.

[ThirdandLong]

Yeah. My son and H are quite close because of how much time they spent together after my daughter was born. Likewise, she and I are quite close. Of course, we all play and spend time together, but there's definitely a preference.

[cleo29]

To help that Puddle, I would start paving the way by disappearing for a while to give her time to remember how much she loves her dad, honestly, it's like they forget or something. lol

H also eases things with her by being silly yet affectionate. LIke giving her tickle kisses on her neck or tickling her followed by a bear hug. I think this helps too.

[cleo29]

Hmmm, then maybe some other stuff they can do, just the two of them. H takes C to Home Depot all the time. lol I think just getting them together more, without you, can help.

[ECB]

It's a phase and I don't feel its something you need to tell her that she's hurting daddy's feelings. SHe's a child going through regular developmental phases - your DH's feelings shouldn't be her responsibility.

And trust me- I get it. DS tells everyone else "I love you" but he doesn't say it to me. I really don't let it upset me - he will when he wants to and I"m not going to force him to do it.

[eddy]

Jack used to be all about me. With the pregnancy he shifted gears and likes to pal around with H now.

Obviously Leo is all about me as well. I think I get them when they are young and as they get older they will gravitate to H more. I am okay with that.

[circa1978]

Some days our 16-month-old is slightly more clingy to me or H but he'd throw us both over for his grandpa or my brother any day of the week. There have been several times when he's inconsolable for us and my brother takes him - instant silence and accusing toddler looks aimed at both of us. It's demoralizing.

[hymen]

I was the preferred parent while I was nursing. Now that I've taken the boob away he prefers my H over me.

It's kind of nice actually because it's exhausting having a baby/toddler cling to you 24/7.