People with small stature kids

[dowagercountess]

Do other kids pick your kid up? This drives me nuts.

[Doc_Lobster]

I was really little. Other kids picked me up all the time. Just wait until they get old enough to be real dicks and throw her in trash cans. Kids are assholes.

[dowagercountess]

Like, they hug her, and then they pick her up. It drives me crazy.

[tacokick]

Someone tried to do that to me when I was little and I kicked them in the shins. Didn't happen again.

[dowagercountess]

She is unlikely to kick in the shins. My child is overly polite, which also drives me a bit nuts. I told her to tell them not to do it, and I will ask her teacher to keep an eye on it.

[tacokick]

Hopefully the teacher will help! To me this is like tickling you against your will. It is an awful feeling. Not to mention it is really inappropriate for students to be touching/picking each other up.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I hate it when kids older than Lucy pick her up. I'd be ticked if kids her own age did it.

[dowagercountess]

She's not, Sue sue. She looked thoroughly uncomfortable. And I got the impression this girl asked to hug her for the sole purpose of picking her up. It's not the first time I've seen them do this and they squeeze hard. It's not like someone you love doing it.

[Deleted]

I was little and people did this to me all the time. I hated it but was too shy to say anything. I think asking the teacher to keep an eye on it is a good move.

[Deleted]

I only vaguely remember this happening. The novelty wore off and then I was just another kid in the class.

I think it'll pass quickly.

[speckledfrog]

Dowager, in addition to having the teacher help I think talking to P about what specifically she can do/say when it happens and then acting it out (either with your picking her up pretending to be another kid or the two of you using dolls and taking turns pretending to be P) would be helpful. I'm she you've told her that it's okay to not like it and to say something but role modelling and acting it out is always helpful for kids her age.

[textbookcase]

Yes, it drives me crazy, too. Older girls are always carrying Keira around. It annoys me, but she eats that shit up.

[wrathofkuus]

Aug 13, 2012 20:22:26 GMT -5 dowagercountess said:

Like, they hug her, and then they pick her up. It drives me crazy.

This used to happen to me a lot, and it drove my mother crazy, too. I'm not sure why it bothered her. Or you, come to think of it.

[LLL]

My ds does that with kids his age. He's pretty affectionate/touchy kid. We do correct him/ tell him to give his friends their personal space though if we are around. I don't think it's a bad idea to talk to her teachers about it.

[dowagercountess]

It bothers me because she's not a toy, they squeeze too tight, they are kids without a ton of motor control, it's dangerous, and damn it, she's little, but she deserves the same physical respect a bigger person would command.

[styme46]

Yep, kids do that to dd all the time too. We also practiced saying "Please don't pick me up, I don't like it" or something similar so it happens less now than it did, but she didn't like it either.

The kids that would pick her up generally weren't much bigger than she was and obviously struggled to do so. I agree, it's dangerous and they squeeze a lot tighter than they should because they know it will be difficult to pick her up. And really, it's her personal space so if she doesn't like it and is obviously uncomfortable when it happens, work with her to ask them not to because she doesn't like it and have the teachers help keep an eye on it as well.

[sonrisa]

Kids like to lift or carry smaller and younger kids. My brother broke his collar bone that way. He was big for his age but the other kid was older. She meant well but it ended badly.