How to stop the whining!!!???

[zarapipe]

DD is starting to constantly whine over everything! If she is sad, or tired, or doesn't get her way, or for whatever reason. It is more of a fake cry, but any more it is almost half of the night. I've tried putting her in timeout, but that just makes her more mad and puts her into a full tantrum. Should I just keep the timeouts coming? Tell me it is a normal 2 year old behavior

[ijack]

I would tell her that you won't talk to her until she uses a nice voice. I often send DD upstairs to wine as well.

[cookiemdough]

I just say that I can't understand you when you are whining. When you are ready to use your words and tell me what is wrong let me know. And then I ignore until he is calm and ready to communicate.

I wouldn't do time out as that would have only escalated things for DS.

[satama]

Aug 14, 2012 9:59:56 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

I just say that I can't understand you when you are whining. When you are ready to use your words and tell me what is wrong let me know. And then I ignore until he is calm and ready to communicate.

I wouldn't do time out as that would have only escalated things for DS.

This exactly.

[londoncalling]

Aug 14, 2012 9:59:56 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

I just say that I can't understand you when you are whining. When you are ready to use your words and tell me what is wrong let me know. And then I ignore until he is calm and ready to communicate.

I wouldn't do time out as that would have only escalated things for DS.

I say something similar. She knows enough to say "OK, I'll talk nice now."

[ECB]

Aug 14, 2012 9:59:56 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

I just say that I can't understand you when you are whining. When you are ready to use your words and tell me what is wrong let me know. And then I ignore until he is calm and ready to communicate.

I wouldn't do time out as that would have only escalated things for DS.

100% this. I'll give a shrug and say "Sorry, I can't understand you" and I'll go about what I was doing until he talks to me in a normal voice.

[Deleted]

Aug 14, 2012 9:59:56 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

I just say that I can't understand you when you are whining. When you are ready to use your words and tell me what is wrong let me know. And then I ignore until he is calm and ready to communicate.

I wouldn't do time out as that would have only escalated things for DS.

This.

[anonnani]

My son recently started doing this as well and I do exactly as the other posters have said, I explain I cant understand so he cant have or do whatever he is asking. Works some times others he gets frustrated but hopefully it will help him get through this stage faster by knowing that he doesn't get something b/c he isn't understood.

[teammccool]

Also when she is talking nice be sure you praise her a lot for being such a big girl and using her big girl voice.

[Deleted]

My DS was whining at the table while at my 90 year old Grandmothers the other night. My G-ma mocked him and he stopped, I just sat there stunned that she did that--lol

[af1212]

We use 123 Magic at our house, and when we started it she cut the whining right out. She is between 2 1/2 and 3 now and we started when she was just over 2.

[Deleted]

total normal.

I ignore her. She then wants my attention, whines some more, comes up to my face and tries to kiss me. I ignore her until she stops whining and apologizes.

It did take us a while to get to this point, but all she wants is the attention. If I don't give it to her, she'll stop.

[evynsmama]

I tell her to ask nicely, use her words and stop whining. She is not quite 2 so I am sure it will get worse before it gets better but she has a pretty good vocabulary so hopefully it won't get too bad. If she does the fake cry thing, I just tell her "that is the fakest cry I've ever heard" and she stops.
And if all else fails she goes to bed early, and a lot of times she needs to. We went on vacation a few weeks ago and I was dreading that it was going to be a week of tantrums because at night she has at least one but I realized its because she is tired and our whole vacation she maybe had 3 tantrums.