Sister vent

[deanlicker78]

My sister ticked me off a couple of weeks ago and things have been a little frosty between us. Saturday was my nephew's birthday party (my brother's son) and we were both there. She followed me around the party (there were 18 other people there) saying "You can't get away from me! We're having this out right now!"

Crazy lady! She hasn't called me, emailed me, texted me, nothing in two weeks and then she waits until we have a crowd of people during a birthday party to try and discuss it. I flat out told her to knock it the hell off, this wasn't a Jerry Springer episode and we could talk about it later. She went into the next room and cried to everyone that I was being mean and she was only trying to talk to me because she cares so much.

The next day I sent her a text asking her when she would like to talk. She didn't respond. I sent her an email. She didn't reply. I just got on facebook and had a message from her via her son's account that said "Go to hell, I know you deleted me from your H's account!" :-| I look and she isn't my friend anymore and has blocked me, that's why she had to use her son's account. I didn't delete her from H's account, I'm pretty sure he did because he's tired of her drama.

Why can't I have a normal sister? Just a normal, go shopping with, have lunch with sister.

[janegold]

How old is she? I would like to assume 19 but apparently not since she has a son old enough to have a FB account.

There is nothing that irritates me more than adults who act like children. Sorry your sister is so unpleasant.

[cleo29]

My sister used to do that, well not waiting for a completely inappropriate time to start a fight, but would hound me during when I needed a few minutes to calm down.

What was the original fight about anyway? If you really want to end this, I would just go to her house and have it out and then tell her this has to be done. And rather than assuming what's happened, to take the time to actually talk to you first. If not, i would just let it go for now.

[Deleted]

She sounds completely exhausting.

[deanlicker78]

She's 44. Old enough to know better!

The original disagreement came about because she asked me if Jacob could come over this summer on the days that I worked because my nephew gets bored at home. She runs a daycare center and all her daycare kids are much younger than he is. I said this would be fine, the boys love playing together. Twice this summer she got angry because although she knew my schedule and what days I worked, I didn't call first to ask permission for him to come over. She invites him over, but I still have to ask permission. After the second time it happened I quit taking him over there. She called my H, at work no less, to find out why. Even though I told her why.

[cleo29]

Oh that is ridiculous. What does she say when you point out he was already invited so there is no need to ask permission?

This sounds like a control deal, that she wants to feel like she has all the power.

[deanlicker78]

Aug 14, 2012 10:10:39 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Oh that is ridiculous. What does she say when you point out he was already invited so there is no need to ask permission?

This sounds like a control deal, that she wants to feel like she has all the power.

She had no real reason. You're right, she just likes to be the boss. She can't do something nice without ruining it somehow.

[cleo29]

Aug 14, 2012 10:15:59 GMT -5 deanlicker78 said:

Aug 14, 2012 10:10:39 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Oh that is ridiculous. What does she say when you point out he was already invited so there is no need to ask permission?

This sounds like a control deal, that she wants to feel like she has all the power.

She had no real reason. You're right, she just likes to be the boss. She can't do something nice without ruining it somehow.

It sounds like there are always strings attached. That kind of person just an energy suck. Sorry

[Deleted]

Ugh that sucks, she sounds so high maintenance to deal with...has she always been like this?

[deanlicker78]

Aug 14, 2012 10:17:29 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Ugh that sucks, she sounds so high maintenance to deal with...has she always been like this?

Pretty much. She goes through cycles. She can be great for months at a time and then she'll unleash the crazy again. But yeah....it's always been like this.

[kellbell191]

She sounds exhausting. I'm sorry dude : (

[nique]

I am so sorry, that completely sucks. I understand though, I cut ties with my sister over 4 years ago and I am not sad one bit, don't need the selfish, bitchy, drama queen in my life.

[LLL]

she sounds like a piece of work. ugh, I'd let it go for now, no point in trying to reason with her when she is being like this

[deanlicker78]

Thanks you guys. I forget sometimes I'm not the only one with a crazy sibling. Just needed an ear.

[margarita]

She sounds exhausting. I'm sorry.

I would leave it for now. It sounds like engaging her will just create more drama.

[dochas]

Aug 14, 2012 11:53:10 GMT -5 margarita said:

She sounds exhausting. I'm sorry.

I would leave it for now. It sounds like engaging her will just create more drama.

I would enjoy the peace and quiet for a while. The holidays are right around the corner - we all know how family members like this enjoy destroying holidays.