If you're not a parent, you don't really get what it's like to leave your kid with someone you don't know. My cousin got married out of town and kids weren't invited. They said that they would be happy to get a sitter and they could watch DS at their apartment. I was totally uncomfotable with that (he was 8 months at the time), so we sent our regrets. Honestly, though, before I had kids, I would have thought that this would have been a perfectly acceptable solution. Now that I'm a mom, not so much!
I am a parent. I understand. I won't leave my kid with someone I don't know either. That doesn't mean I think kids need to be at weddings.
I don't think they need to be at weddings either. I have no problems leaving DS with my parents for a local wedding and going and having a good time with DH. I just hope that someone is not offended if it's an out of town wedding and I say no.
If you're not a parent, you don't really get what it's like to leave your kid with someone you don't know. My cousin got married out of town and kids weren't invited. They said that they would be happy to get a sitter and they could watch DS at their apartment. I was totally uncomfotable with that (he was 8 months at the time), so we sent our regrets. Honestly, though, before I had kids, I would have thought that this would have been a perfectly acceptable solution. Now that I'm a mom, not so much!
I am a mom and would consider this a totally acceptable solution IF the sitter is someone they know personally and not just a random they found off Craig's List or something. Do you/would you never use a babysitter that is referred by a friend?
I agree with hens. I would make sure the hosts actually know the sitter and then I would be fine. The baby will likely be asleep most of the time anyway. But I do think it is fine to decline if you feel that uncomfortable with the sitter.
They are providing a sitter. I think that is sufficient. You can always decline to go, but I would think your baby will be fine with a sitter. I am leaving my babies with a sitter my aunt found for my cousin's wedding. I never really thought twice about it. My sons will likely be asleep most of the time anyway.
They only offered to try to find someone to do it. They don't have kids and I don't know that they real ly know someone. I am not comfortable leaving DD with someone that I don't know at all.
We have decided to take my sister along as a sitter, so it's fine, it's just a hassle with the added expense and finding lodging with all of us that won't break the bank for a 4 day trip.